The answers might not be bad enough to be worthy of a downvote, but they also aren't upvote-worthy in my opinion. See also the link at the bottom of this post.
This one is written from personal experience, but did'tdidn't have any upvotes! Although the personal experiences the OP shares here might be of much more use than the opinions on how the world should work in other answers... This is definitely one of those upvote-worthy answers.
This one is a lot more extreme: it tells the OP to do something that goes against the wishes of the birthmombirth mom, while the OP specifically stated in the question that 'their mom doesn't want contact, and they want to repectrespect that wish'. This is what happens when we allow people to 'share their opinions' as a solution without having them relate these 'solutions' to personal experience explaining how things have worked out for them in the past!
This does definitely not deserve an upvote. In fact, this might even be flagged as NAA because 'it doesn't honor the premise of the question'
