If I may (I know I haven't been on much recently), I don't think this [question][1] should have been deleted. Yes, it should have been put on hold as unclear, because in my opinion the OP could have clarified what she meant by "which he always wants" and if she had ever hinted or shown that she didn't like that.

I agree that this question might make some people uncomfortable but one could argue that these people don't need to answer. I don't think the OP was disrespectful or impolite but perhaps tactless or just naively assumed everyone has the same boundaries as she does. She could have been a bit more aware of that but we neither know her age nor her cultural background.

Now, if she was a troll then she probably got what she wanted when her question was closed and deleted so fast after causing such a controversy.

It might be a little suspicious that she didn't "defend" her question by answering Anongoodnurse's question or commenting on the answers here, though she could have been upset. We can't really know.

So again I'll agree that there was overreaction and that sometimes it's hard to know whether someone is trolling (I'm no expert) but if people had attempted to answer by not paying attention to the explicit nature of the question, some people could have benefited. And here is where I agree with TheTinyMan's answer. I, for instance, would have asked her to clarify some things and attempted to answer because of a similar experience when I was younger. I don't know how old the OP was (another point for clarification) but had this happened to me at a younger age, I would have felt reluctant asking here so I do give her some credit.

Unless there is direct voting from the IPS community on the specific question we can't possibly know what percentage felt uncomfortable and what didn't to assume that most people did. How many felt that way out of how many?

Also deleting this question might discourage others from asking sex-related questions in the future. There could be guidelines or suggestions about how to ask more explicit questions when it comes to the language used if this is a concern.

If the OP instead of saying "giving him head" had said "performing oral sex", would that have been more acceptable? I'm just trying to understand what exactly made some people uncomfortable, the language, the topic, that they didn't expect such a question? What exactly?

To me Em C answered perfectly,

If someone thinks we shouldn't have certain types of questions on the site, then they need to bring it up on meta so we can decide on it as a community - not just a few users in chat deciding they don't like that sort of thing and deleting it vigilante-style.

And if some people have reconsidered or disagreed with the question being deleted why has nobody undeleted it since? [1]: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/8092/how-to-say-no-during-the-middle-of-sex

If I may (I know I haven't been on much recently), I don't think this question should have been deleted. Yes, it should have been put on hold as unclear, because in my opinion the OP could have clarified what she meant by "which he always wants" and if she had ever hinted or shown that she didn't like that.

I agree that this question might make some people uncomfortable but one could argue that these people don't need to answer. I don't think the OP was disrespectful or impolite but perhaps tactless or just naively assumed everyone has the same boundaries as she does. She could have been a bit more aware of that but we neither know her age nor her cultural background.

Now, if she was a troll then she probably got what she wanted when her question was closed and deleted so fast after causing such a controversy.

It might be a little suspicious that she didn't "defend" her question by answering Anongoodnurse's question or commenting on the answers here, though she could have been upset. We can't really know.

So again I'll agree that there was overreaction and that sometimes it's hard to know whether someone is trolling (I'm no expert) but if people had attempted to answer by not paying attention to the explicit nature of the question, some people could have benefited. And here is where I agree with TheTinyMan's answer. I, for instance, would have asked her to clarify some things and attempted to answer because of a similar experience when I was younger. I don't know how old the OP was (another point for clarification) but had this happened to me at a younger age, I would have felt reluctant asking here so I do give her some credit.

Unless there is direct voting from the IPS community on the specific question we can't possibly know what percentage felt uncomfortable and what didn't to assume that most people did. How many felt that way out of how many?

Also deleting this question might discourage others from asking sex-related questions in the future. There could be guidelines or suggestions about how to ask more explicit questions when it comes to the language used if this is a concern.

If the OP instead of saying "giving him head" had said "performing oral sex", would that have been more acceptable? I'm just trying to understand what exactly made some people uncomfortable, the language, the topic, that they didn't expect such a question? What exactly?

To me Em C answered perfectly,

If someone thinks we shouldn't have certain types of questions on the site, then they need to bring it up on meta so we can decide on it as a community - not just a few users in chat deciding they don't like that sort of thing and deleting it vigilante-style.

And if some people have reconsidered or disagreed with the question being deleted why has nobody undeleted it since?