I've voted to close How do I let someone I'm romantically interested in know I think we wouldn't work out because I am not straight? this morning, since in my opinion, it isn't fit for IPS SE as it is:
- It's opinion based. All the questions in the body are, at least: Do I tell my friend I think I am not straight? Do I pursue a romantic relationship with him with or without sharing that secret? Should I risk losing him as a friend by possibly breaking up with him later because we are just too different?
- It's lacking a clear goal: We don't know whether the OP wants to tell or keep a secret, although the title suggest that their goal is communicating that they think they aren't straight, the body asks "Do I tell my friend I think I am not straight?".
- It's lacking a desired outcome. We have no clue whether the OP wants to have a romantic relationship or just maintain a friendship.
Although it was put on-hold, it now has three reopen votes already, without being edited at all, or without having the very serious questions in comments addressed by the OP:
While I sympathize with your situation, we cannot tell you what to do. What we can do is suggesting how to approach should you decide to coming out to him, or how should you keeping the status quo (while I definitely won't recommend it). Please edit your question so we can better provide answers that meet your needs. – Vylix 13 hours ago
I'd like to know if and why we consider this question to be inside our scope or out, and why users are voting to reopen. Do they think a clearly stated goal and desired outcome aren't necessary to answer this question? Why? Do they think it's okay to provide answers to the opinion based questions in the body of the question? Why would this be a good practice, how does that help the OP?
Is this question on-topic or not, and why?
I'm going to edit this to include the latest facts:
- The last reopen vote was cast yesterday, after the question had been on-hold for 4 days, with no activity of the OP. See also this meta: Should we edit to make a question on-topic if we believe the author won't care/won't come back?.
- An attempt to edit the question was made after reopening it, by a person other than the OP. This edit has since been removed, so this question is still open, in it's original form.
- See also this: Let's close questions asking how to word/phrase something.
- It currently has 2 close votes again.
How come this question received it's fifth reopen vote yesterday?
What was in that edit that warranted it's reopening?
Why was that edit removed?
Did that edit influence other users to vote for 'Leave Open' when the question popped up in the close-vote review queue after reopening?
Personally, I'm a bit disappointed. I'm seeing people voting to reopen these types of questions, but I see no answers that are upvoted to such an extent here that reflect that this question should have been reopened/remain open. Even worse, this question and the two most upvoted answers here reflect that the question should have remained closed. I'm disappointed and confused. What happened here?!
If we disagree with putting a question on hold, is it really so much effort to up/down vote some things, and leave a little comment with your opinion? That way, we can have questions and meta-answers that actually match, and work on the scope of this site constructively!