So I came across this answer today on a Hot Network Question. It was highly upvoted, which is why I'm raising this here instead of flagging. I may be off base and this may be my sensibilities speaking, but I think that this answer violates several core principles of the "be nice" policy.
An excerpt from the rules:
Rudeness and belittling language are not okay. Your tone should match the way you'd talk in person with someone you respect and whom you want to respect you. If you don't have time to say something politely, just leave it for someone who does.
Here are some parts of the answer which I believe are violating this rule:
Your relationship seems to follow a well-known script: first she tames you until you're wrapped around her little finger and do whatever she wants whenever she wants, she gets rid of all your friends to better control you, then once you've become a puppy dog, she dumps you for a more assertive man because she's "lost that special connection" or something.
This is ascribing massively bad faith and very belittling in my opinion. It may be what the user believes, but the rules actually say that you should at least attempt to empathise and respect people ... this doesn't, from what I see
Also, considering her behavior, you won't marry her (unless you're a masochist maybe), which means you will have to dump her at some point for another who is wife material. Sooner... later... who cares.
This is very callous. Accusations of Sexism notwithstanding (I'm not going into that, I think there's enough here without that angle to take issue) this is dangerously close to regarding a person as nothing more then "material" which is in my opinion unfitting for a respectful analysis of a situation
Thus, the reason she attempts to cut you off from your female friends, or from anyone of the female gender, is to reduce your options to only herself, at which point she owns you.
This is again assuming extremely bad faith and outright planned maliciousness. I don't think you can conclude that from the question, and even if you can, this seems awfully general and scathing and disrespectful towards the subject of this question.
Let's be honest, you're going to dump her in the end, but you can still use this opportunity to get some training in how to handle her personality type, maybe rub some of the bitchiness off her to make her a better person, and in the unlikely and miraculous event that you succeed in taming her, maybe it'll work, who knows.
Talking about using a person like some kind of object. I don't think language such as this has a place on any stackexchange site, much less on one about fostering social interactions and helping people this way. Asides from that I disagree with the advice on offer, I think this is directly insulting to at the very least her, if not a whole group of people.
Every time she raises drama about bullshit (not about important things, that's called arguing not drama), stop for a second to assess how much you actually care. Decide that you don't, that will allow you many more options about what to reply. Also when you don't care, you don't get angry, which is important. She'll make a nice crash test dummy to build up your confidence with women.
In the same vein, I think this too is very insulting. I'm not sure if it's ever appropriate talking about a person like an object to be used.
Now, this answer is heavily upvoted, so maybe this is just me getting in a tizzy and overreacting, but it might also not be so.
I deliberately avoided the sexism angle in this because I'm even less sure of that, but it sure does reek of it.
So, the question:
Does this answer violate SE's "be nice" policy, and if it does, what is the appropriate action to take?