I didn't decline these flags but I did delete these comments.
As you say, none of them are requesting improvement of the post and at least one if not more of them fail to meet our "be nice" policy.
Eds -- I can call ya Eds, right? -- do be prepared for a fair amount of blowback in the answers. People really do like to be called by their names, and it seems kind of ... unproductive to insist on using a pronunciation you know she doesn't like.
The first part of this reads like the person who posted it is trying to make a point - Do you like it when people intentionally say your name wrong? That's not a very welcoming thing to do. Yes, the question seems to be a bit misguided but addressing that is what answers are for. Making snide remarks to prove a point isn't nice. Part of a good answer to this question will explain exactly what this comment says - and several of them do. It is no longer needed and has been deleted.
However, her pronunciation is just plain wrong to me, and I can't be untrue to myself by pronouncing it her way. What an arrogant thing to think.
This is purely commentary on the question. It's unnecessary. It's also rude - we've now just called the OP "arrogant". Something being your interpretation of the truth DOES NOT MAKE IT "NICE". We have a very strict "be nice" policy here. Calling people "arrogant" is not nice!
"You can't memorize every little detail about everybody you work with." True. Concentrate on the important details, the most important of which is their name.
Like the first comment, this is already covered in half of the answers. It is not necessary.
I'm sorry your flags were declined. I would hate to dissuade regular flaggers from doing so based on confusing, mixed signals. Please, feel free to bring future flagging concerns to meta until we get these concerns ironed out.