I disagree with the closure of the question, but rather than arguing that point, I'm interested if there's something I'm missing that warrants this question to remain closed.
Initially, the OP didn't actually ask a question, he only described the situation. While I consider the question obvious (how to approach the tense situation), I can see why there's a need for adding the question explicitly.
OP added this not long after:
How do I confront him about this intelligently and really ascertain his willingness to keep doing this? Am I coming on too strong? Should I drop this matter entirely until he himself comes to me for help?
But the question got closed minutes later, likely due to someone adding the last needed close vote (while the others were incurred before the OP's edit).
I posted a comment disagreeing with the close vote:
I disagree with the closure, the OP has already appended his question by asking how to approach his brother. Not only that, but I suspect that one of these additions ("Am I coming on too strong?") is hitting the nail on the head, which makes it IPS relevant and on topic. I have an answer ready to post that specifically addresses that; but the question got closed seconds before I posted it. (if this gets reopened, if someone could ping me, I'll post my answer)
This seems a fair justification for reopening (but if it's not, please tell me why). Three comment upvotes doesn't mean that much, but at least some people agree with my reasoning.
However, one of the close voters responded:
There are three different questions now and "Am I coming on too strong?" is primarily opinion-based.
And I quite strongly disagree with that notion, for two reasons:
- You can't fault the OP for trying to ascertain the cause of the issue. He's open to considering if he is contributing to the tension, which is a good thing, not a bad thing. We're literally punishing the OP for showing his effort; which seems counterproductive to say the least.
- IPS almost exclusively deals with things that are at least partially subjective. Different viewpoints are almost always the cause of IPS problems, which is pretty much the definition of subjectivity. Furthermore, if I can refer to the OP's own statements to prove that he himself (subconsciously) refers to himself as overbearing (which I have done in my answer), then it's not a matter of opinion.
The same close voter then suggested I take this to Meta, and here we are now.
I haven't been on IPS.SE for very long, so I won't presume to know the rules here.
But can someone explain to me if the closure of this question (post-edit) is still warranted? Why? What is the question lacking?
I'd also appreciate it if someone could explain why several questions (not on different topics, but rather to mention possible explanations for the issue) are unacceptable; and where the line is drawn between opinion-based and subjective.
While writing this question, there have been some reopen votes. It's possible that the question will be reopened before anyone can answer this.
But I would still appreciate it if someone could tell me if my interpretation of the validity of the question is incorrect; to avoid similar issues with future questions.