First, I too think there could be a lot of value to this post if the question were to be rephrased to something more along the lines of
"I don't like the word queer, I don't have the same connotations with it that everyone else does. How can I explain to the people using it that I don't want to be grouped into that label with them?"
I'd vote to reopen after an edit like such, but not any sooner. Currently it's just a rant without enough info for us to edit ourselves (IMO, primarily if these people are close friends, acquaintances, or strangers, because this would change answers drastically).
Second, you redirected me here after I made a comment on the post stating that his feelings on the word "queer" aren't reflective of its true definition, and making a comparison to his views and how some individuals choose to use "gay" as a derogatory insult. Just in case it came off as hostile, I didn't mean this as "chiming in" with my distaste on his views, but simply stating a fact, as the comments are used for on any other post. OP has the right to have whatever feelings he wants towards the word, I only made that comment to iterate that his feelings aren't reflective of the word's true definition.
There might be some reflection that can be done to be more understanding of other people's feelings and word choices if the OP is given the proper knowledge/viewpoint. Maybe he has never had a discussion about queer's true definition. However, my comment is not an answer to any rephrasing of the question, thus comments.
For what it's worth I'm gay and don't really prefer the word queer either. But I don't speak up against others because it seems distasteful to tell others not to use a word just because I am stuck on, what I know to be, an improper definition of it.