This is about this question: How to ask cashier out for date
I think the premise of this question is a little flawed (as in, what OP intends to do merits a frame challenge), but the question itself is totally fine. It's about interpersonal skills, it's not a duplicate, it's clearly defined and not too broad, and it's not off topic.
Despite this, within minutes of being posted, it attracted 4 downvotes and 2 close votes. I've seen this happen before - people disagree with the premise of a question and react by downvoting & closing it. I don't agree that we should do that.
This one eventually came around but the implications aren't nice.
Are we using downvotes correctly in these cases? I don't think just because you find that OP has a wrongheaded intention that it merits a downvote. I think answers should address that. And I think we're doing our site a huge disservice by trying to erase questions that people will have and will find useful.
The goal after all isn't to ask only the least upsetting questions possible, but to build a site of useful Q/A for people. By getting rid of it, we're not serving to get rid of the behavior outlined in it. In fact, by having decent answers underneath, we might do more to change people's minds.
Using downvotes because you find a questioner's intentions unsavory doesn't strike me as useful. Instead, it somewhat lends credence to the accusation that we've turned into a clique which will erase opposing viewpoints at will - I think we should avoid that.