Now it's closed again for "unclear what you're asking". This is very strange five people who reopened thought it's clear enough and I received explicit mild compliments from some people:
we have an answerable one - OldPadawan
regardless, I think it is a decent question - Beofett
I really don't understand why people use their close and reopen votes the way they do, I don't understand why my question was singled out,(nobody have yet to respond to that) I can't make any sense of what happens on this site.
This is a very strange experience, I'm used to other StackExchange sites. The rules are very clear, they're meticulously and uniformly enforced. If Interpersonal Skills is different from all the other sites and has different standards perhaps you should add a disclaimer? Or maybe it has no place on StackExchange?
The question was reopened; thanks to the people who voted on that. However this is no longer just a question about the actual interpersonal problem I have, it includes the solution given by another user to solve my actual problem by establishing more boundaries(not something I thought about, it was not possible for me to ask the question as it is now without a partial answer in comments from that user) and I'm going to miss out possible interpersonal solution that are not about boundaries.
It might be a better more answerable question but all the other askers in the questions I linked to (from this week this is not some leftover from the early days of this site) were allowed to ask about their actual problems and received help with them I don't understand why I was singled out and prevented from doing so. My goal is not to ask the best possible question but the question about my interpersonal problem.
I asked What to tell my parents when going on a mongering trip? It's about a specific interpersonal problem I have.
The first complaint I got was that it's "asking us to tell you what to say" (it was about the original version) it can also be said about the following questions:
How can I tell my mom to not cause herself so much stress when I'm visiting?
How to explain our frustration over a trip being rescheduled without us?
How do I encourage my family to talk more and watch tv less when I'm visiting?
How do I tell my parents I don't enjoy their company?
How to create a mindset which promotes fluid and spontaneous talk
And yet they are not closed, highly upvoted and all I needed to do to find them was look at the "related" questions to my question.
Looking at the relevant quote from the on-topic page
ask us to rewrite text or otherwise tell you what to say. We are not an editing service. Questions should focus on how to generally write or decide what to say so that you can tailor them to your situation.
I think my question falls under "generally write or decide what to say" and it doesn't even apply you can think otherwise and being the judge and jury only your interpretation matters.
After I edited my question it became about "How to deal with this specific interpersonal situation"? And then another user started telling me that the question must be about some specific skill I want help with
what skill are you looking for help with?
Well now... this are the top 6 questions this week:
How do I deal with people trying to convince me to wear makeup?
How can I avoid the awkwardness of a returning player who wears a low-cut shirt?
I have a crush on a coworker but won't act on it, how can I tell my boyfriend about it and that I'll remain faithful?
How do I answer a question about not enjoying a party without revealing sensitive information
Maintaining honesty while being comforting in response to insecurity about relationship?
How do I tell someone I recently met that I am in a relationship?
All of them are about how to deal with an interpersonal situation the same as my question was at that point. They are highly upvoted and not closed.
I later edited the question and made it about boundaries as that second user wanted and asked to reopen so far it's still closed and in any case at this point this is hardly the question I wanted to ask.
I saw the other questions here before I asked mine and I was sure that it was on-topic based on being similar to popular and opened questions here, why only mine was closed?
I don't want to accuse anybody of anything but I can't help but feel discriminated based on what my question was about and/or because of me being a new user.