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  • Regarding this sandbox, what do you think of this feature request on Meta Stack Exchange? – gparyani Oct 12 '18 at 4:12
  • @gparyani I've upvoted, as it'd be a cool feature, but it's definitely not super necessary, as I or someone else would've edited your question into the correct format if it wasn't. This is what happened with the other question currently in the sandbox as well. – scohe001 Oct 12 '18 at 13:23
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  • Can I suggest removing the numbering and reversing the order of the list so that it is from youngest to oldest? I know may be biased as I plan to add a question to this list shortly, but it seems unfair draw attention away from new questions to those which are (potentially years) older, and are thus more likely to be already answered. – Notso Oct 3 '18 at 11:29
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    @Notso this answer is more an archive of what's been in the Sandbox for those users below the rep requirement to see all of the deleted answers below. I wouldn't be so worried about drawing attention to your post. If you've just posted it and it's getting answers/revisions it will consistently be toward the top of active which far more users check than this meta answer ;) – scohe001 Oct 3 '18 at 15:02
  • @scohe001 Fair enough! – Notso Oct 3 '18 at 17:41
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Showing a homeless person that you care about their well-being

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Every day, when I go to work, I pass by a homeless person. At first, I just waved hello to them, but now I shake hands with them and, when doing that, they will start asking me questions (like "how are you?").

I believe they want to have a conversation and feel like a human being but, as someone on the autism spectrum, I struggle to know what to answer them and how to do the conversation.

When they ask me how I am, I do want to give them a meaning-full answer (something more than just a "fine, and you?") but I'm also afraid that talking about how work is going for me would be inconsiderate (since they don't have a job). As a result of this, I do answer with a "fine, and you?" and, since I don't know what to say afterward, the conversation just day (then I say "Have a good day" and I go to work).

I went them to know that I care (at least a little) about them and their well being. I would like them to know that I think of them as a real human being and not as some sort of furniture or nuisance.

So, how could I keep the conversation going while not being inconsiderate and also showing my interest in their well-being?

More details about this homeless person:

They have a small dog, they suffer from diabetes, some days they aren't here but I don't know why (and I'm afraid that asking them might be too intrusive/rude).


Sandbox related stuff: Is my question on-topic? I'm afraid it could be too-broad or some kind of "what should I do"

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    For 4+ years, a person like the one you talk about (wasn't homeless, was poor, but had a gvt-paid-home, was educated) just chose to sit in the street, asking for money, and was 5ft away from my job's door. A dog and a book. He always had a different book, and I love dogs :) Starting a small talk (more than a "hi / what's up? and you?") was then very very easy. Anything you can spot about them and that would help starting the small talk? – OldPadawan Oct 2 at 10:13
  • @OldPadawan I added details about them and they, too, have a (small and probably old) dog – Ælis Oct 2 at 10:20
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    I don't really know how to improve this (interesting) question but yeah, it seems rather broad to me :/ – avazula Oct 3 at 13:25
  • Would asking "What are some guidelines to interacting with homeless people?" narrow things down? OTOH this seems like asking for a list. Yet OTOOH "some guidelines" suggests that non-exhaustive lists are fine. – Lux Claridge Oct 3 at 15:33
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    @LuxClaridge IMO, that would actually make the question broader and I wouldn't hesitate to vote-to-close such a question. – Ælis Oct 3 at 15:35
  • @Ælis that's fair and I probably would VTC too. I really like this question. I feel like How can I continue the conversation so that it would be meaningful to them? is on-topic enough and maybe narrow enough. Or at least, the thing to tweak first to improve the question? IDK; I'm still too much of a noob here probably. :) – Lux Claridge Oct 3 at 15:41
  • you could specify if you want to answer questions or ask questions.. it would be hard to tell where to take the conversation. Partially because of the word "meaningful"? – ankii Oct 3 at 17:39
  • @ankii I don't see I could answer questions if the other person isn't asking me one. Or by "answering question" you mean "talking about myself (without asking questions to the other person)"? – Ælis Oct 3 at 17:41
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    I think that this is a valid topic for the stack, but is multiple questions rolled into one, which makes them seem unclear as a single unit. If it were adjusted to something like "How can I have a conversation with a homeless person without being inconsiderate of their circumstances?", it might be more stack-friendly. I think that the autism-spectrum tag is appropriate and helpful to future users. Finally, I think that "meaningful" is too subjective here, even with the definition listed. I hope you do post some version of this question, I think that it would be helpful to a lot of people. – Upper_Case Oct 3 at 22:06
  • @Upper_Case Thanks for those feedbacks. I changed my question a bit and if think it's much more on-topic than before. Any feedback? – Ælis Oct 10 at 9:41
  • I think the revised question looks great, and is ready to be posted. – Upper_Case Oct 10 at 15:06

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