I just ran into this answer that was deleted. Maybe there is some legalistic hair-splitting reason why it was deleted. But my lord, it's the right answer. He asked her out on a date (see Seinfeld). She said no. Not maybe, not I'm busy, not "it's too far", just plain no. What more needs to be said? You could maybe disagree with this answer, but delete it???


From the comment of the answer:

please see here what we require of frame challenges like this. This post misses a justification of why the frame of the question is a bad idea. Why shouldn't the OP tell the girl? What would be the consequences of doing so?

So, if you think this answer is "the right answer", you should definitely make the same with the justifications that this answer miss (unless another, not deleted, answer already do that).

Answers on this site that does not "back it up" tend to be deleted which explain why this one has been.

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    The answer is an extremely useful answer. The fact that it was deleted indicates a problem with site policy. – DaveG Sep 26 '18 at 14:46
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    @DaveG I think Noon's point is that it wasn't removed for being not-useful, it was removed for not meeting the standards of answers on this site. Keeping some standards is important, and I think you'd need to make a more detailed argument if you want to argue in favor of relaxing those standards that refutes the arguments made in the linked meta post. – Bryan Krause Sep 26 '18 at 14:49
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    @BryanKrause in the case I'd say "back it up" doesn't even apply, since the answer merely points what the OP is saying: he asked her out for coffee, she said "no way". I'm not sure what there would be to "back up"... no means no? – DaveG Sep 26 '18 at 14:53
  • @DaveG Are we looking at the same question? I see OP saying the response was "I'm too lazy to leave home" – Bryan Krause Sep 26 '18 at 14:56
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    @BryanKrause Yep, that's what I'm referring to. "I'm too lazy ..." which sure sounds like "no, no way". Not "what time" or "how about lunch" or "I have to wash my hair", just plain no. There's not a lot of wiggle room in the answer. – DaveG Sep 26 '18 at 14:59
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    @DaveG I think at a minimum an answer that is going to say "I'm too lazy" means "no" (which I don't entirely agree with, by the way) needs an explanation of why someone might use that as a way of saying "no" - I completely agree that an answer that says only what you have said in comments here should be deleted because it lacks the justification that we require from frame challenges, as in the linked meta. – Bryan Krause Sep 26 '18 at 15:01
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    (and note that this answer already does this to some extent, at least by raising the possibility that there are multiple ways to interpret that statement, including a gentle "no, never") – Bryan Krause Sep 26 '18 at 15:11
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    @BryanKrause I'd answer you but I'm too lazy. – DaveG Sep 26 '18 at 18:11
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    Should I take that to mean you won't answer me just this time or you won't answer me in response to anything else ever? Without other information, and given the context, the former seems reasonable to expect. Hence why I think "I'm too lazy" may or may not mean "no, never, but I want to let you down easy" like in the answer I linked. – Bryan Krause Sep 26 '18 at 18:14

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