I have another answer that was wrongly deleted with no explanation or opportunity to address.
I want to now exactly what wrong with this Answer and why it was deleted.
I would also like the baseless accusation in the comments addressed.
I think what this answer seems to be lacking is an explanation of why this will end the date both graceful and without hurting feelings. You're dealing with someone that doesn't know how to do so, try to provide them with the skill to recognise what is graceful and what not, instead of just giving them a script to follow
What's the most graceful way to finish a date without hurting his feelings? (emphasis mine)
- You can end the date gracefully by eliminating as much stress on you as possible.
- I wouldn't worry too much about their feelings
Well... I didn't DV, but VTC as I think that, reading comments, you had a chance to improve your answer. You can disagree, but explain why, and why your solution is better for OP. As it stands, it doesn't address OP feelings and needs. Which is the core of our system here.
You can write a frame-challenge. But justify it. You can challenge OP and provide her with another way out. But please remember that, in order to help others, we need to show them the right tool (skill) and the right way to use it. Otherwise, it just looks like a try this answer...
It's not about being right or wrong in the answer (votes and ticks will tell), it's about respecting the needs of OP, answering the question, explaining WHY you think this is the good solution, and WHY it should work (based upon own/known experience, books, data...), and back-up the answer.
Finally, what is a good short-way to go straight to the point (IMO) is @Erik's comment:
"I have this other emergency, sorry" followed by never contacting the person again is probably the least graceful way you can end a date. – Erik - (emphasis mine)
As Tinkeringbell said in their comment.
I think what this answer seems to be lacking is an explanation of why this will end the date both graceful and without hurting feelings.
On this site we have an expectation that answers be more substantive than just saying "Try this". In practice this is most commonly done by providing examples from personal experience, explaining your reasoning for why you are suggesting a particular course of action or by citing an external source.
In your answer you make a lot of statements about what the OP should do but you don't provide any supporting arguments saying why these suggestions would be a good idea.
You also don't do a good job of addressing the core of the OP's question.
What's the most graceful way to finish a date without hurting his feelings?
If an answer doesn't address the OP's concerns then it is failing to be an answer and should be deleted. While we do allow frame challenges, answers that challenge the premise of the question, we hold them to a higher standard than regular answers. In addition to requiring that an answer have some supporting arguments explaining the why of the chosen course of action, frame challenges are required to explain why there is a better course of action.
In your answer you make a bunch of suggestions about what the OP should do. If you edited your answer to include an explanation for why the OP should do these things I'm pretty sure your post would get undeleted in short order.