Over a year ago, the question How to get spouse to empathetically listen to problems instead of offering solutions? was posted here.
My answer was brief, offered a book that was perfect for the situation, and a paragraph offering the advice that the author took a full book to explain. It remained at +4 vote, including the 1-2 down votes, I lost track. Today, 15 months later, my answer received two critical comments from a member (who also commented on a half dozen other sub-5-vote answers), and tonight, I see a mod simply deleted the answer.
As a mod on another stack, I am curious if this is the culture here? There were no votes to close, a year ago, and little comment back then. And yes, on Money.SE, I frequently have to explain to another member why I deleted a question or answer. Not always the OP, either. Members in general push back on deletions.
There is a book published in 1992, Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus.
It describes the exact situation you are now in. The fact that, in general, men are problem solvers, and women, talkers, discussing their feeling and relationships. This is not my opinion, it's the premise of the book, which spawned a number of sequels and lecture series for the author.
In my opinion, identifying conversational styles is the first step towards understanding a partner, and strengthening relationships. By taking a step back, and discussing this issue, you can better learn how your partner thinks. Even though people are stubborn, if you explain that you need an ear to talk to, and 'work things' out, your husband might become a better listener.
Hey, do you have any suggestion as to how exactly this conversation should go? Remember that people here are bad at interpersonal skills which is why answers need to have details and not just broad suggestion.
Also, this was already suggested multiple time, what does your answer provide that others didn't?