I think it's important to give this discussion a second (third?) try, so there I go. I didn't want to edit my first answer, as this is just a offshoot that has its own developpment, and root question/problem. Not only I wish this could be helpful, but it may question / help / "protect" our (still weak and recovering) IPS community, its goals and tools.
I'm not (or consider myself) an Avenger ^^, but since I was kind of first-on-line on this one, I'll keep it running. I'm not calling names, just trying to answer you again, John, and clarify some points. But you'll be the example I'll choose, because you initiated this discussion that, IMO, is far more wide and broad than a single answer (yours, or mine). It's about what the Community has decided as time went by, and all of the developments this stack has had...
What I'm thinking of right now is this answer. You stand your ground. I'll not DV or flag or even review this answer. This is not the point, and no, I don't think you're targeted. So, here are my thoughts about that, and I'll give my analyze and POV.
This is (IMO) another "switch-answer", and we should avoid that. Why?
"I would expect Parents to be familiar with such restrictions" -> we don't know. So, it looks like "counting chickens before they are hatched".
It lacks background and clarification from OP -> assessing this and answering is like "shooting in the dark". You may hit the target, or not :)
"The first Interpersonal Skill to use is simple Honesty" -> but please, tell a white lie.
Randomly add some spice in the dish, and see if it suits your taste and your parents. Later, OP added this comment: "But because the reactions aren't anaphylactic shock, there's a whole discussion on whether its pickiness or actual allergies".
"The next Interpersonal Skill is Personal Accommodation" -> is this a skill?!
To me, it's a life-hack. More important, why would OP use this? What are the pros and cons? The possible outcome? I don't say that it's a bad idea, just that it would really benefit of some explanation and, if possible, be experienced/knowledge based.
"you can use the Interpersonal Skill of Flattery" -> this, I can't agree.
Worst advice possible, the one that can badly backfire... Flattery is often associated with hypocrisy, and toadyism, and people usually hate this.
"Finally, have a plan in case [...] but you should be prepared" -> switch ON/OFF, try this, and if it doesn't work, plan B.
My understanding and conclusion are that, no matter if it has UV, this is not following the rules IPS has set. And, before anything else, rules can be discussed, here, on meta, rather than writing answers that won't fit. You're right to ask for a change, but while it's discussed/agreed here, we (not you only) should refrain from many things like the two main ones following:
- accepting questions that don't fit the pre-defined model (but ask for clarification / edits...)
- answering (FGITW syndrom) those questions.
If I had to say something that would reach a personal level for any of us, I'd point that we all can be, as individual, another valuable contributor if we follow the play-book the coach has set, and play with the team. Not for our own sake, not to attract the spotlight, not for being the bigshot. For the team. You don't win a battle/war/revolution by beating your opponent or losing our lives, but by protecting/saving the life of the ones you love. Sacrificing our [ pride / life / internet points / you name it ] at the benefit of the group is the heart of the problem, the crux of our involvement to help others.
If we are wrong, let's hold our hands and die as a team.
If you folks think this is unclear, too broad or off-topic, or if I'm wrong with this, or if it should be part of another discussion, or just deleted, please comment, let me/us know. Thanks.