- I've answered the OP
- I can't say I've liked this particular answer.
- I've seen this answer in the review queue and skipped it.
. #1 : to me, there's no real difference in the ideas behind our 2 answers. It has big difference in the way to present them. That also explains point #2.
. #3 : I thought it was not fair for me to vote +/- on this one.
TBH and more clear, I don't like the idea of interfering in someone personal life. I explained that in my answer: you never know what's behind the scene, if there's a agreement or a need, and so on...
But there's also a big difference when saying NO you don't! first, then explain your word. To me, when you have to say something like that, that will probably go against one's will/need, you'd better remember that you walk on eggs. I'd rather start with some light words and warnings, and bring the idea (small) step by (small) step. This lets you explain your reasoning, and why it may be important. The latter is more "sweet", because it's brought smoothly and may be more welcome, while the former will often be seen as harsh, because it's a big hit, in your face, and "Welcome to the NFL!" :)
There's a lot to take into account between ON and OFF ^^ and IPS has decided it would be great to let people read/understand and pick the ideas/hints/clues. This is about "Human behavior", feelings, understandings, therefore, very different from some other stacks (especially the "technical" ones).
Does it mean the answer deserved a deletion? Not sure though... Can it be improved? Maybe. Or not. We have comments and chat for that. But if OP feels fine with their answer, let it be. They said it's their "honest assessment of the situation". Which means, MY feelings, MY point of view, and (it seems to me) no way to back it up other than with their own education and guts. I don't say it's wrong, just that the "icing" looks like an IT one, not like a pastry-chef's.
Many times in my life, I've realized that ideas are like pastries. They must not only be good, but nicely presented. The look is as important as the taste, the eye wants its part, like the mouth.
I think people would be more willing to accept that if there were some explanation about that, though.
I would let the community decide with UV/DV first, on this one.
We can still open another meta about the "icing" if you think it's necessary ;)