This question (as the title could summarize it) arose when I saw the 2 following questions. I interacted with either the OP or the person who answered.
- how to deal with an infuriating ex - below are the comments in question, that the person wrote in response to either DV/CV/comments.
- I read that and also the more specifically relevant advice on what is on-topic here. The question is about how to respond to another person's behaviour in the course of an expected ongoing interaction. It comes under what is described in the advice as "understanding interpersonal interactions to resolve specific problems or prevent problems from occurring with a specific goal in mind". "(P)riorities may include (...) spending less time on the issue."
- I suggest you vote to rewrite the advice then, because understanding an interaction in order to spend less time on an issue (defined as on-topic) might also often be classed as "intrapersonal". In fact learning anything might be called "interpersonal".
- To me as a parent, I would not think of receiving a gift from my child I am going to meet after so many years, if not for the first time. The 'what can I get as a gift?' is not an uncommon question. You are entitled to your rating, which makes me want to hang out less in a rigid environment of how to answer. I am not disrespectful or stupid, it was a genuinely felt answer.
- [...] For a moment, this part of StackExchange felt like a forum. More than a scientific corner, it was like a gossip corner, but I understand now. Especially with the blog post link you shared, it all goes down to getting to the point and learning something from the experience. I actually came back here to delete my account. It kinda hurt being down-voted by a number of you. I appreciate the explanations. [...]
So, to me, both missed the scope of this stack and the way it was working, what was expected and so on... But I'm afraid (at least when I tried to interact with them, so I may take the blame for it or completely miss the target a second time), that it wasn't handled that great (except when Tinkeringbell stepped in, I thought she cleared the misunderstanding).
So... 2 questions:
do you think our help center misses some targets and some points could be clarified (which could be very clear to us, long-time users, but less to newcomers)? Or they didn't read carefully and then misunderstood?
was the situation handled nicely? or a little more sugar-coated speech would have been a much better idea? or more guidance?