Linked Questions

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7answers
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How do I write a good answer?

The requirements for answers on IPS may be a bit different from what you're used to. We can't simply run your answer through a compiler and see if it compiles and works. But here's some stuff you can ...
18
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5answers
985 views

is this a site that wants to exclude people?

I recently answered a query - my first - on this site and was helped by someone who explained that my answer was "down-voted" because it did not answer the specific query. I thanked the person and ...
11
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11answers
238 views

What should be in our FAQ?

I'm thinking IPS needs a FAQ, because people keep coming to meta with the same questions. I feel IPS is different enough from most of the SE sites these people are used to, that we could use a FAQ to ...
13
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5answers
782 views

Should we be more strict about one-line answers?

There have been a lot of one or two line answers (very brief) on the main site. Most of them, almost all of them IMO, only suggest one or two things to do and never explain why they would work. Though,...
12
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5answers
793 views

What to do with questions about “getting around” peoples' boundaries / autonomy

Sparked by this question: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/1537/how-can-i-tactfully-ask-if-someone-is-expecting-or-not Since it's a well known faux pas to ask, I'd like to find a ...
7
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8answers
621 views

What do we expect from an answer on Interpersonal Skills?

We are trying our very best to remove low quality answers from our site. But there are no clear guidelines on what we, as a community, consider to be a good answer. So let's try and make a few ...
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6answers
1k views

Questions about how to respond to illegal activity

These questions don't seem like they are a good fit for the site, as the only valid answer is to call the authorities. There are no interpersonal skills involved in that. Should they be closed as ...
4
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5answers
547 views

Can answers be off topic? - How to deal with answers that address legal issues

We have had a couple of questions that ask about ways to deal with interactions with others. These questions are perfectly on topic here because they are asking about interpersonal issues. Sometimes, ...
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2answers
313 views

Why was another one of my answers deleted?

I answered the following answer to How can I ask an unfamiliar coworker to eat more quietly? Explaining to the asker that what he wants is not possible is perfectly fine on SE Is "Don't do ...
3
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3answers
234 views

Question 15411 had a high rated answer disappear - how do I determine why this happened?

Yesterday Question 15411 had a fairly highly rated answer that I thought was the best answer. There was a "please back this up" comment on that answer. Today that answer is completely gone. Is ...
5
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5answers
151 views

How to encourage questions to actually focus on the 'interacting' part of Interpersonal Skills?

Arthur summarized most of the problem very well in chat: We give people plaintext area to speak about their problems, so they just fill with what matters to them and not what's a good question. I ...
5
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1answer
247 views

Why did my answer get deleted?

I've answered a question, but my answer was later deleted--it even had some upvotes! Why did this happen? What can I do?
7
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1answer
139 views

When should one recommend deletion for a Low Quality Post in the queue?

When I first got enough reputation to review the queue, I had no idea how to use my new "powers". I had the hardest time understanding when I should "Recommend Deletion" for the "Low Quality Posts". ...
4
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2answers
184 views

What do we delete, and what not?

I had an interesting chat with @Catija yesterday. She stated: This is something I've argued with the Cooking mods for over a year. If an answer has even a whiff of an actual answer, they decline ...
10
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1answer
373 views

What counts as an “Interpersonal Solution?”

I can't seem to find a solid definition of an "Interpersonal Solution" anywhere on the site (if I'm wrong, please drop a comment!). I've seen complaints that we delete everything except answers ...
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2answers
61 views

Questions posing as Interpersonal Skills problems that really are not

There have been a few questions like: How to convey a message that will convince an unknown person to not urinate next to my garage door? That appear to be asking for an interpersonal skills answer ...
7
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2answers
171 views

Some questions, many answers, seem to be off topic; how can we keep the site focused?

A good percentage of the answers on this site seem to be off topic. Very often, the answers analyze the situation instead of providing useful advice on how to deal with the people involved. What I ...
3
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3answers
177 views

How can we treat equally two answers giving the same advice when one was flagged as LQP?

I just ran through this answer in the review queue. It was flagged as Low Quality. It gives this advice: "Shopping in LGBT-friendly stores [...] has the added benefit of potentially catering directly ...
0
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2answers
190 views

Why was an answer suggesting dosing a thief with laxatives not deleted?

This answer to the question "what to do if I suspect my friend is stealing from me" suggests to "set a trap" in the form of a hidden camera, which I personally don't find very socially adept or "...
-7
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2answers
120 views

Hiring a lawyer is not legal advice

I see a lot of answer advising to hire a lawyer. This is not an interpersonal solution. Interpersonal solutions should be exhausted before someone spends money hiring a lawyer and inevitably gaining ...
1
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1answer
100 views

With no reputation, can I somehow answer a blocked question because it attracted low-quality or spam answers?

I wanted to answer a question but it become blocked by community because it has attracted low-quality or spam answers. I do not have 10 reputation to answer it, since I am not that active on this site ...
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3answers
107 views

Should we use chat to give non-IPS solution, instead using comment?

Some question might have optimal/best solution with non-IPS approach. Answer is not the place to post non-IPS solution (if the answer solely suggest non-IPS solution). However, some might want to ...
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2answers
167 views

Intrapersonal problem which interferes with interpersonal relationship: on-topic?

How to overcome nervousness while welcoming English-speaking clients? The OP of this question struggles with speaking with English-speaking clients. Nervousness interferes with how we deal with ...
1
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1answer
28 views

Most dictionaries don't include “communication” in their definitions of “interpersonal”. Does this have any problem?

First, I don't have any opinion on the scope of the site focusing on communication - no agreement, no objection. However, I see that many arguments on various topics about the scope (e.g. https://...