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To what extent do we respect the OP's request?

There has been a question rattling around in my mind since I started to participate actively on this site. After reading this question, I feel the need to bring it up in meta. I'm active on several ...
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What to do with answers that aren't related to interpersonal skills?

There are fourteen answers on this question: How to write a note that will convince an unknown person to not urinate next to my garage door? The "Question" part of the question states: If we were ...
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Templates for leaving comments

This thread is a list of useful comment templates for common situations on IPS. The full list of current templates can be found below. Please note that those comments are only to be used as template ...
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2019 Pro Tempore Moderator Election Q&A - Questionnaire

The purpose of this thread was to collect the candidates' answers to 2019 Community Moderator Election questionnaire. The elections are now over, you may find the outcome here. In connection with our ...
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What do we expect from an answer on Interpersonal Skills?

We are trying our very best to remove low quality answers from our site. But there are no clear guidelines on what we, as a community, consider to be a good answer. So let's try and make a few ...
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Is it time to cut the canned comments?

There was a time when we'd get floods of answers from users unfamiliar with our site policy. Unable to spend a significant amount of time and effort on each of these posts, many of the IPS users began ...
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Old post, no valid answer, what to do with it?

You may be aware that IPS policy regarding answers - and more specifically, what does make them valid - has changed last year. We now expect answers to provide either literature citations - i.e. proof ...
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PSA: Please avoid writing duplicate answers

I recently asked a question - What should I do if I have a nosebleed in the middle of a meeting? This question received at least 11 answers (2 of which were deleted). I've read through all of the ...
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Coming to terms with “Frame Challenges” vs. “Respecting the Question”

I'm a little confused. Recently, it seems there's been a push to "respect the premise of the question" in answers. It's causing answers like this to be heavily downvoted and flagged with comments ...
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Should we close questions where underlying assumptions are not supported by evidence?

Recently, I have seen 2 questions here where the underlying assumptions made the question hard to answer. In both cases, there is no reason given for the assumption(s) that was/were made in the ...
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What techniques could a shy person use to have a better outcome when asking questions on this SE?

For someone who is shy, interpersonal skills are always a big challenge. It's especially daunting, because there's always an intrapersonal aspect to it, which is generally much harder to overcome than ...
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Could we take measures to alleviate some of the exasperation from deleted comments? Should we?

I was reading the answers and comments in this question and I realised that maybe if in IPS the comment deletion was a tad different people would feel less bad about it. I have been using SE sites ...
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What are the citation expectations of answers on IPS Stack Exchange?

As a Stack Exchange site, answers on Interpersonal Skills SE are expected to be cited and backed up, but what the expectations are exactly can be hard to find. So we've adapted an excellent post on ...
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Should we encourage writing from experience?

I haven't answered many questions here because I've decided to stick to dealing with situations where I've experienced something similar or identical. My rationale for doing so is that answers on ...
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“Just the facts, ma'am.” OR Reining in answers

Should we hold answers to just the question asked? We have many questions here that we endeavor to limit so that the question isn't overly broad. We encourage users to address where they are in the ...
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How can we politely communicate to users that ignoring IPS' policy about answering is hurting the site?

I've seen this behavior around for several months now, but observing it again this morning while reviewing the low-quality posts queue made me think it may be worth a meta post. I've observed that ...
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Related Answers: Why your Pakistani answer won't always work for India

n.b. I'm creating this post as a guide and canonical reference for why an answer to a question that lists a different culture may not always be appropriate and acceptable. As you may already have ...
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Are we possibly a bit too trigger happy in our moderation?

I find it a bit worrisome seeing how much moderation takes over on IPS. My impression is that we are at a point where the close reasons are too far narrowed down. I understand that questions which ...
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How can this Answer be improved?

No reason was given for the deletion. How can it be improved? There is a clear skill recommendation that I learned from being in this situation which I do make very clear. https://interpersonal....
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What should we do about answers based on the 'wrong' culture?

This site has already had a lot of discussion about clarifying cultural context in questions. I haven't been following meta well enough to link to all the relevant discussions, but here's one early ...
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Why did my answer get deleted?

I've answered a question, but my answer was later deleted--it even had some upvotes! Why did this happen? What can I do?
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Is Enforcement of Backup Requirement in Answers Consistently Enforced?

First of all, I want to say that this question is not driven by bitterness on my part, but I know it might come across that way. I had an answer deleted about 5 months ago because it wasn't supported ...
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Tell me *Exactly* what is wrong with the Answer

Deleting my Answer was completely unjustified. My Answer is still not restored and no justification for it's deletion has been provided. Please update me on this situation before I escalate. I want ...
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Example of answer that was deleted too quickly

This answer (screenshot) is (to me) an example of an answer that was deleted far too quickly. The original question was how a guy could get his friends to get more serious about starting a business ...
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We have a problem with the way we talk to OP

I wrote this almost two weeks ago. I wanted to be sure I wouldn't say something I will later regret and I also wanted to let my feeling calm down. TL;DR Just read the part about "So, where am I ...
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Add history to citation expectations meta post

In the meta post What are the citation expectations of answers on IPS SE I noticed that the post was not as friendly as I would have liked in the perspective of new users, and I wanted to improve the ...
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When should one recommend deletion for a Low Quality Post in the queue?

When I first got enough reputation to review the queue, I had no idea how to use my new "powers". I had the hardest time understanding when I should "Recommend Deletion" for the "Low Quality Posts". ...
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When is an answer 'not an answer'?

The 'Not an Answer' Flag has the text This was posted as an answer, but it does not attempt to answer the question. It should possibly be an edit, a comment, another question, or deleted ...
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How to moderate answers that were given to an OP having been off-topic in its initial form?

Being a bit worried about How to reply to someone who gets defensive when you ask them to do something? getting too much attention before OP is gonna clarify his question, I was wondering: Assuming ...
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Regarding the deletion of an answer for not answering the core question

In the recent question How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan? my answer got deleted. I see the point of the answer not ...
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What kinds of interpersonal skills questions aren't opinion based?

Like the title says. Trying to get a handle on what this site likes, but having a tough time making sense of it; e.g. the current top 6 don't seem not opinion-based, but I'm not sure what you all ...
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Heavy handed deletion of an answer

Over a year ago, the question How to get spouse to empathetically listen to problems instead of offering solutions? was posted here. My answer was brief, offered a book that was perfect for the ...
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Should we add the (red) faq tag?

Today, I spend almost 20 minutes looking for the meta post "How do I write a good answer?". Spoiler alert, the post that I clearly remember upvoting doesn't exist because this post was about questions ...
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What changes do I need to make to my answer to get it undeleted?

The Question: Approach friends about getting un-invited last minute with terrible communication and rude behavior? The Deleted Answer: The Interpersonal Skill here is Setting Boundaries. Note though ...
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Should we have a canonical meta post that better summarizes our “subjective” guidelines and points to alternative resources?

On this site, we get a lot of users who ask questions that are considered too subjective under our model (i.e. closed as "primarily opinion-based" or off-topic with the "what should I do" sub-reason, ...
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Maximum Up-Voted Answer

Example An answer-1, answer-2 which has short description (3 to 4 lines) and not formatted. It has got maximum up-votes. Question Maximum up-voted answer on IPS means high quality answer? Well ...
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Were My Posts Flagged/Reported?

I'm new to this stack exchange, and so far I've only asked 2 questions (neither being offensive). One got closed for being "off topic," and then I created a new post modifying it. (I've since learned ...
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Is this answer valid?

Upon review of this answer on "How to tell a friend I don't want his help with miniature painting", this answer got flagged for lacking citations of personal experience on similar matters: https://...
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Tell me **exactly** what is wrong with this Answer [duplicate]

Another Answer was wrongly deleted with not justification. How to show appreciation to colleague? You will note in the comments that the Commenter freely admitted they missed details in the Question....
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Readers' Feedback on Accepted Answer

Question or answer readers may give their up-voting or down-voting without revealing their opinion. This rule is known to me. I have faced one experience. Here, I had discussed with OP for about half ...
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Clarification on Subjective Answer Backup Requirements

We've now been formally enforcing "backup" for almost a year and a half (and discussing it for at least 2yrs). We've had some well written and well thought out answers on what's expected. However, one ...
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FAQ for Interpersonal Skills

Asking questions What is the Sandbox? How do I use it? How do I write a good question? Are there any suggested question structures? Answering questions How do I write a good answer? What are the ...
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Should the “comments are not for extended discussion” message be upgraded?

When I posted this question some of the members of the community suggested I should extract this particular point into another question so everyone could weigh in. In this network comments are ...
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Why has my answer been deleted?

I answered a question (How to schedule meetups effectively?) on how to schedule a meeting effectively. My answer was later deleted. Why was it removed? Image for those with lower rep:
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Writing a featured sum-up post to help new users understand the site quickly

Well, most of you already know this, we're back on HNQ. Yay! I'm not good in writing SQL queries so I'm unfortunately not able to provide stats to support my claim but since we returned, I observed a ...
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When a question mostly brings frame-challenging answers, should we try to edit it?

This question was inspired from a conversation in IPS' main chat. Regarding the following question: How to ask ex-girlfriend to seek professional help It was pointed out that most answers challenge ...
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What do we need in a back up by personal experience?

We now require answers to be backed up by personal experience or external sources. I believe that a "TL;DR" of what we expect from a back up by experience would be interesting to have ...
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Should this answer have been deleted?

The answer: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/20726/21067 Note: This answer had been flagged, go to review and was judged "ok". I'm posting this here because I disagree with the judgment. ...
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Etiquette question about “common gesture” and quality of answers

I'm talking about this question: Pointing the index fingers to one another as a way to excuse oneself: is this a common gesture? At first look, I thought this was a mostly valid question, however, ...
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Improving the help/how-to-answer page

I recently wrote my first Answer only to then hear someone suggest it needed personal experience included. Before writing it, though, I had gone through the help center and it didn't have anything ...