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Tags roommates vs flatmates vs housemates

We have currently three tags that are basically all describing the same thing : roommates, flatmates and housemates. At the moment, flatmates has 2 votes to be a synonym of roommates and housemates ...
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Almost 2 year old question gets resurrected by comments

The most polite way to stress I do not wish to eat something? I just saw a pile of comments added to old answers requesting for an update. I just find this to be a bit odd. Is this going to be done ...
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Where do we draw the line between 'what to do' and 'how to do' questions?

I have reviewed various questions that appear to be related and still find the issue unclear. I'm asking with specific reference to How to break off contact with someone without hurting their ...
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How to avoid answers being deleted without a comment?

Note that I'm not talking about spam or rude answers here. Recently, this answer was deleted without anyone leaving a comment explaining why. I'm partially at fault here since I voted to delete ...
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What do we need in a back up by personal experience?

We now require answers to be backed up by personal experience or external sources. I believe that a "TL;DR" of what we expect from a back up by experience would be interesting to have somewhere in the ...
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Comment explaining a downvote deleted

First of all, sorry if this is the wrong way or the wrong place to ask this question, but I'd really like to know the reason for this action, and I thought this was the best way to get it. I posted ...
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2019 Community Moderator Election Results

Interpersonal Skills's first pro tempore moderator election has come to a close, the votes have been tallied, and the new moderator is: They'll be joining the existing crew shortly — please thank ...
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Clarification on deleted comment

On this question: How to tell/ask my brother to provide his own food? I added a Comment similar to: Do you think you're over thinking this a bit? "I'm not Mom and this isn't a restaurant, deal with ...
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Add history to citation expectations meta post

In the meta post What are the citation expectations of answers on IPS SE I noticed that the post was not as friendly as I would have liked in the perspective of new users, and I wanted to improve the ...
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My answer was downvoted and marked for deletion. What should I do?

Then, after answered to the moderator's comment, explaining that have updated my answer and (with some irony, I admit) telling her that her way had not been the one of someone welcoming another to a ...
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HNQ 1 month anniversary - How are we doing?

As of yesterday (June 20th), it's now been one month since we were brought back into the HNQ fold and we've had a couple questions make it on the list since then. The numbers make it clear that these ...
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Question was protected while I was composing an answer

There's one answer that got some downvotes, but no spam or egregious answers. You may want to reconsider your policy of protecting every question that hits HNQ. It's discouraging to put effort into ...
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2019 Community Moderator Election

The 2019 Community Moderator Election is now underway! Community moderator elections have three phases: Nomination phase Primary phase Election phase Most elections take between two and three weeks,...
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2019 Pro Tempore Moderator Election Q&A - Questionnaire

The purpose of this thread was to collect the candidates' answers to 2019 Community Moderator Election questionnaire. The elections are now over, you may find the outcome here. In connection with our ...
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2019 Moderator Election Q&A - Question Collection [closed]

The purpose of this thread was to collect questions for the questionnaire. The questionnaire is now live, and you may find it here. Interpersonal.SE is scheduled for our first election! It will take ...
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“How to tell your grandparent to not come to fetch you with their car?” is on topic?

I read at https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/help/on-topic - Other types of questions that are off topic include questions that: ask us to rewrite text or otherwise tell you what to say. ...
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Writing a featured sum-up post to help new users understand the site quickly

Well, most of you already know this, we're back on HNQ. Yay! I'm not good in writing SQL queries so I'm unfortunately not able to provide stats to support my claim but since we returned, I observed a ...
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How to moderate answers that were given to an OP having been off-topic in its initial form?

Being a bit worried about How to reply to someone who gets defensive when you ask them to do something? getting too much attention before OP is gonna clarify his question, I was wondering: Assuming ...
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What should we do about the example “unicorn” question in the tour page?

In the site tour page, there is an "example" question shown for the purposes of showcasing the Q&A model. On sites that haven't configured it or have no "eligible" questions to show there, it ...
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Should we have a canonical meta post that better summarizes our “subjective” guidelines and points to alternative resources?

On this site, we get a lot of users who ask questions that are considered too subjective under our model (i.e. closed as "primarily opinion-based" or off-topic with the "what should I do" sub-reason, ...
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Can this post be reopened

I have a question about my Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange post: Why people are often mad at me with I having no idea why they're mad? I did additional edits. I know some people will be mad ...
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When can I use the lgbt+ tag?

Today, I asked this question: Avoiding conflict when showing my family my new name I added the lgbt+ on it with the following explanation: I put the lgbt+ tag because changing names is a common ...
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When a question mostly brings frame-challenging answers, should we try to edit it?

This question was inspired from a conversation in IPS' main chat. Regarding the following question: How to ask ex-girlfriend to seek professional help It was pointed out that most answers challenge ...
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Improving the Help center

Recently, someone pointed out that the Help Center wasn't precise enough regarding what is and what isn't on-topic. It was about the first version of this question and here is what the comments said: ...
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Announcing a Pro Tempore election

Summary: Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange will begin the nomination stage for a special election on June 10 to bring in one more moderator. For full details of the process, see the announcement on ...
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Edit of question #6385

The question is this one. I must say I believe that the autism-spectrum tag seemed appropriate, as well as the 1st paragraph of OP. Not picking up clues in a jokingly social environment is a skill I ...
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(DONE) Can question #21407 be improved and reopened?

Thanks to many edits (and last great one from @avazula), this question about "courtesy" has been (temporarly) saved and could probably be reopened. "Is it common to leave something in someone's house ...
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Tag “work-environment” and “job”

The tag work-environment (currently 288 questions) is defined as: Use this tag if the question is related to the work environment, such as an issue with your boss, your coworkers, or someone you ...
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Can I ask this theory question?

I am being banned from asking question in 7 days, but I'm not sure if the ban can be lifted so I can ask the below question? Is there any research about silence in communication, especially in ...
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How do we know if an answer is correct?

This is kind of a meta question and I'm sort of "thinking aloud" so bear with me, give me constructive criticism and I'll edit the question to reflect that. How do we know that high-ranking or ...
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Where should I ask “What do I do?” questions?

I recently asked two questions in the format of "What do I do?", and they were both either closed or on hold, so it seems as if IPS is less for open-ended questions and more for specific answers to ...
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When should mods remove questions from HNQ?

With the recent changes to the hot network questions list, site moderators have been given the ability to permanently remove questions from HNQ. This is a very powerful ability, and as such, we need ...
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“depression” and “mental-health” tag

Depression is a mental-health problem. However, mental-health issues aren't limited to depression. At IPS, we use both tags: depression For questions about depression, or depressed people. If ...
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How many questions should we allow to hit HNQ?

Since SE changed the way HNQ works, we've been given the option to have IPS get back on it. Based on the discussion on that second link, it looks like the community here does want to get back on HNQ. ...
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Revisiting HNQ participation for IPS

As of today (11 March 2019) we've made significant changes to how the Hot Network Questions List works, including giving moderators the ability to remove questions from the list and limiting the ...
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Answering multiple questions as a whole

There is a particular user here with 6 or 7 questions about his housing situation. A few of the issues: Non-tech savvy roommate thinks I hacked into his computer because when he scans wifi it shows ...
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( DONE ) Reopening a question

This question: Asking an update from a friend who agreed to help me but who didn't respond me last time was closed and then edited. The user who asks the question is new and really active (they ...
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Broad Questions, Definitive Answers, and the Limits of Personal Experience as Evidence

I'm posting this in response to a recent question which sparked some discussion in chat and comments, but the issue I want to talk about is broader. I'm also not intending to pick on this question or ...
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Should we delete the “conversations” tag?

The conversations tag is the most broadly use on IPS and, in my opinion, this tag doesn't bring any information at all. From the tag description: Questions about having conversations with other ...
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The end of my watch on IPS

Hey, everyone. Over the past few months, I think a few folks might have noticed that I've gradually become less and less present on Interpersonal Skills. While I've continued to handle flags (albeit ...
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Are We Striking a Good Balance Between Accomodating Askers and Accomodating Answerers?

We've had a few meta posts asking about how we treat questions and the users who ask them here, and those are good and valuable. But I feel that we might have an imbalance with our concern for those ...
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Are we giving users who ask questions 'good' feedback?

Disclaimer: Although I don't feel it has particular relevance, I am a new user here and haven't experienced the full scope of everything that's happened. These are just some of my own personal ...
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two similar questions, one getting close votes?

I just noticed there are two very similar questions recently asked. Both ask about how to engage in conversation when the OP is awkward or feels they don't have anything to converse about: How to ...
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Do we want to be back on HNQ?

Note: This is not an official question! I'm posting the same question than this one but several months later. I know that, at least some of us, are still thinking about HNQ (see here, here and there) ...
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What techniques could a shy person use to have a better outcome when asking questions on this SE?

For someone who is shy, interpersonal skills are always a big challenge. It's especially daunting, because there's always an intrapersonal aspect to it, which is generally much harder to overcome than ...
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Can we ask questions that are based in a standardized environment?

Preface: I work at a hospital and am considering asking a question related to the environment. I understand the standards within very well, but I’d like to see the consensus on acceptable scope. ...
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What changes do I need to make to my answer to get it undeleted?

The Question: Approach friends about getting un-invited last minute with terrible communication and rude behavior? The Deleted Answer: The Interpersonal Skill here is Setting Boundaries. Note ...
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Should we invite hurting users to come discuss it in chat?

Trigger warning: depression, suicide, anxiety What brings me to ask this question today is because I recently created a Stack Exchange proposal which scope may partially overlap the IPS scope. One of ...
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We have a problem with the way we talk to OP

I wrote this almost two weeks ago. I wanted to be sure I wouldn't say something I will later regret and I also wanted to let my feeling calm down. TL;DR Just read the part about "So, where am I ...
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Should we consider reducing the speed at which we close off-topic questions for new contributors?

Sometimes an off-topic question is asked by a new contributor who doesn't understand well our site requirements yet, or simply didn't take/have the time to read our guidelines for asking a good ...