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Thanks to all of our community members!

It's the end of the year and I believe it's a good time to remember what was done during the year and thank the people who help make IPS such a great place. So please, use the answers below to thank ...
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Is this anwer wrong in the terms of back up policty?

So, I was under the understanding that our answers should be based on our experience; but, since no two people have the same experiences, our suggestions should be based on similar things we did or ...
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What should be the minimum time frame a bad answer gets to live?

I recently answered a question for the first time on this SE. It received one comment about sharing the source of my opinion and the typical copy and paste "welcome" comment. Less than a day later, ...
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Should I answer a question that already has an answer but apparently with little backing?

So, there is a question that has 1 answer, which the user has already accepted. For me the answer is not bad. It is similar to what I would answer but has no Backing. Funny enough, it has several ...
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Why was this question deleted?

There was a question that just got deleted (~7:20 PM GMT, 2:20 PM EST) regarding a marathon runner and their using a friend's image/name for the charity that they're running for. The question involved ...
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Please, let's stop with "from my experience" answers

Recently I've been seeing more and more answers starting with "from my experience" or which contain "I've been in a similar situation before/I've been in your shoes" and then don't say more about said ...
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Should question with "too many" answers be remove from HNQ?

I'm talking about questions like this one who is attracting a lot of answers (23 so far with 8 of them being deleted). We already added a "controversial post" notice after this meta question was ...
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Does the post about “offering a prayer to an atheist” need a "controversial topic notice"?

I'm talking about this question and it's a very controversial topic. Would it be a good idea for a mod or CM to add the "controversial post" notice on top of the thread? My points are the two/three ...
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Is there an IPS Blog, could we get one?

I don't think there is an IPS Blog. If there is please would you link it? I think that our site could get more traffic if we had a blog. We would have to define exactly its contents, but we could use ...
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Etiquette question about "common gesture" and quality of answers

I'm talking about this question: Pointing the index fingers to one another as a way to excuse oneself: is this a common gesture? At first look, I thought this was a mostly valid question, however, ...
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Is it time to increase our number of HNQ question?

As you may know, when returning to HNQ, IPS has decided to limit itself to one HNQ question at a time (source: Let's go back to HNQ!). It has been quite some time now (6 months) and I believe that ...
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How has the reputation changed for top users on IPS?

There was a huge change to reputation that took place yesterday. How has this affected the top users on IPS? How has this affected the reputation league?
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Would it be possible to undelete my Answer?

So, I posted an answer that relied on a basic cultural understanding that you send flowers to people at funerals and it got deleted for "not citing an external source". I've since edited it to ...
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Are links to Amazon/Ebay/Marketplace okay

I edited this answer so that the referenced books would now have links to their respective pages on Amazon should any user decide to purchase the books. I assume that the original answerer is not ...
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How could we have some more winter fun?

As you might know if you have been on SE long enough, IPS and the SE network go pretty quiet between the 21st of December and the 4th of January. As someone who spends a lot of time on IPS, seeing all ...
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Old post, no valid answer, what to do with it?

You may be aware that IPS policy regarding answers - and more specifically, what does make them valid - has changed last year. We now expect answers to provide either literature citations - i.e. proof ...
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We're 23,000. Thanks everyone!

Here's to us having reached the milestone of 23,000 users on Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. If you're interested in the site's stats, you can find more on Area51. Thank you everyone for ...
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Why do you think this answer should be deleted?

Yesterday I posted this answer. I haven't received an overwhelming negative response or anything, but someone downvoted and someone voted to delete. Since no feedback has been left I am intrigued as ...
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Answer with unnecessary picture. How do we want to treat them?

I am talking about this specific answer. I'm not talking about its quality here (I didn't even read it in full, just the beginning). What I find "questionable" is the use of those two ...
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Should the "comments are not for extended discussion" message be upgraded?

When I posted this question some of the members of the community suggested I should extract this particular point into another question so everyone could weigh in. In this network comments are ...
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What's the best way to deal with VLQ "answers" when you can't flag them appropriately?

This is about THIS question. If interpersonal skills are a way to deal with the issue (not even sure about that, though...), the problem lies with the "answers". How do you know an IPS question has ...
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Why was my question about how many photos to take negatively received, while a similar question was positively received?

I recently saw the question How many photos should I take If I'm given a camera to take a picture?, which asked a general question about how many photos to take if given a camera. However, I saw ...
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Directly editing or leaving a comment instead?

I originally posted this question on MSE. People over there tend to feel like editing stuff is trivial enough that it doesn't deserve its own question. However, I do feel that edits on IPS are much ...
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Edit of a post according to "gender policy"

This is about the answer I made here. The suggested edit has been approved (see history here) The comment says: Having the assigned gender doesn't add anything and is mildly offensive. Many trans ...
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Pronouns, New CoC, and good practices editing answers

This answer to this question has an edit in peer review where the "he or she" wording has been replaced with "he" since the pronouns in the question for the boss are he/him. Given the new CoC is ...
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What can we ask answerers to change about their answers, and what should we do if they refuse?

This question occurred to me when looking at one of the answers on this question: Showing a homeless person that you care about their well-being. The asker had a complaint about some specific ...
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Hypothetical questions rule clarification

Regarding the recent CoC changes on SE meta, I came across a post that argues gender has no place on SE - and I largely agree, yet this site is a little different because everything IS personal, and ...
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Why was this video considered inappropriate for an answer? [closed]

https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/posts/23095/revisions This answer was deleted, and a mod left the following comment: Hi there. Your post got flagged and automatically deleted because of ...
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A taste of moderation

Everyone knows by now what is going on on the SE network. Topics and discussions are all over the place. Opinions vary. Pros and cons. Let me be clear from the beginning: This is not intended at ...
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Is it alright to delete a answer and post a different one?

I just realized I answered a question wrong, because I totally misread what the OP said and also I interpreted wrong one of the other answers. So my current answer it is actually totally wrong. So I ...
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Let's team up, work together, moderate together!

As some (many?) of you have read it, there's a lot going on about SE network, staff, users, and moderators. Let me be really clear on this one: I'm not pointing fingers or taking any side. This is NOT ...
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Why are questions that involve langauge being shut down?

I recently had a question regarding language shut down as it was off topic. How is it that language isn't part of inter-personal skills? Or is it more likely that the admin feared the response of an ...
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2nd party supplying backup in an answer?

I recently edited another person's answer https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/22996/21067 to supply backup. There had been a comment that the answer required backup, and that answer brought to ...
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Improving "Other" Flag text for uniformity in close vote comments

For questions like this (not calling out, it's just recent and an apt example) . . How can I read faster? . . and comments like these . . I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because ...
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Could we take measures to alleviate some of the exasperation from deleted comments? Should we?

I was reading the answers and comments in this question and I realised that maybe if in IPS the comment deletion was a tad different people would feel less bad about it. I have been using SE sites ...
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Chat room title [closed]

Friends(?), The main chat room for this site might be more appropriately named "The Awkward Outburst." I know it won't be renamed but please consider what i'm trying to type. Signed -- tied for the ...
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Provocative Words, Specificity, and IPS.SE

It's a very minor case which prompted my writing this question, but it's one that is likely to come up in the future. I'm sure it's come up in the past as well, but I didn't see any existing threads ...
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Why were my two comments censored?

I wrote a comment about this question: How to ask a man to not take up more than one seat on public transport while avoiding conflict? I was basically reminding OP that not only men take extra space ...
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Does IPS moderate comments differently from the rest of the Network?

I often see people saying things like No other site that I'm a member of is this picky. Why was my relevant comment deleted? and This management over comments is a very different ...
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Inherently Impossible Questions

It isn't the only question we've seen that has this particular dynamic, but this recent question has some features that I think are problematic for IPS and the standards that have been developed for ...
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Can we use useful info from a user's previous questions to answer their newest one?

Recently I've found myself willing to answer a question from users who previously posted a significant number of questions before, using info from their previous questions that I think are relevant to ...
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How should we respond to questions when someone involved, but not OP, needs professional help?

There's a similar question here on meta that asks how to respond to questions where OP needs professional help. Then someone wrote an answer to a question on the main site stating that the one of the ...
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How can I add backup for an "obvious" answer?

Here is a question about etiquette, and it has this answer How about simply asking them? If you're unsure if your behaviour will bother someone, a small question such as: Do you mind if ...
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What are the important information that a question tags should contain?

It's often a bit difficult to know what tag to use in a question, especially on a site like IPS. So, what are the important information, in questions related to interpersonal interaction, that should ...
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Retagging old meta questions with [back-up]

The "backup," "back-up," or "back it up" policy has become a staple of our site. In addition, we've seen a lot of questions concerning it on our meta. That being said, there's no easy way to see ...
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Clarification on Subjective Answer Backup Requirements

We've now been formally enforcing "backup" for almost a year and a half (and discussing it for at least 2yrs). We've had some well written and well thought out answers on what's expected. However, one ...
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Is this answer valid?

Upon review of this answer on "How to tell a friend I don't want his help with miniature painting", this answer got flagged for lacking citations of personal experience on similar matters: https://...
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Ok, someone really needs to fully explain this one

Deleted despite: 39 upvotes. The only Answer replied to by OP: "Thank you. I agree with your comment about the internal negotiation" The Answer was tracking very, very well. Pretty good evidence it ...
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Why was my relevant comment deleted?

How can I communicate my issues with a potential date's pushy behavior? It was not rude or abusive, and about how men need unambiguous signals from women.
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How can this Answer be improved?

No reason was given for the deletion. How can it be improved? There is a clear skill recommendation that I learned from being in this situation which I do make very clear. https://interpersonal....
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