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How many questions should we allow to hit HNQ?

Since SE changed the way HNQ works, we've been given the option to have IPS get back on it. Based on the discussion on that second link, it looks like the community here does want to get back on HNQ. ...
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Revisiting HNQ participation for IPS

As of today (11 March 2019) we've made significant changes to how the Hot Network Questions List works, including giving moderators the ability to remove questions from the list and limiting the ...
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Answering multiple questions as a whole

There is a particular user here with 6 or 7 questions about his housing situation. A few of the issues: Non-tech savvy roommate thinks I hacked into his computer because when he scans wifi it shows ...
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( DONE ) Reopening a question

This question: Asking an update from a friend who agreed to help me but who didn't respond me last time was closed and then edited. The user who asks the question is new and really active (they ...
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Broad Questions, Definitive Answers, and the Limits of Personal Experience as Evidence

I'm posting this in response to a recent question which sparked some discussion in chat and comments, but the issue I want to talk about is broader. I'm also not intending to pick on this question or ...
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Should we delete the “conversations” tag?

The conversations tag is the most broadly use on IPS and, in my opinion, this tag doesn't bring any information at all. From the tag description: Questions about having conversations with other ...
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The end of my watch on IPS

Hey, everyone. Over the past few months, I think a few folks might have noticed that I've gradually become less and less present on Interpersonal Skills. While I've continued to handle flags (albeit ...
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Are We Striking a Good Balance Between Accomodating Askers and Accomodating Answerers?

We've had a few meta posts asking about how we treat questions and the users who ask them here, and those are good and valuable. But I feel that we might have an imbalance with our concern for those ...
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Are we giving users who ask questions 'good' feedback?

Disclaimer: Although I don't feel it has particular relevance, I am a new user here and haven't experienced the full scope of everything that's happened. These are just some of my own personal ...
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two similar questions, one getting close votes?

I just noticed there are two very similar questions recently asked. Both ask about how to engage in conversation when the OP is awkward or feels they don't have anything to converse about: How to ...
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Do we want to be back on HNQ?

Note: This is not an official question! I'm posting the same question than this one but several months later. I know that, at least some of us, are still thinking about HNQ (see here, here and there) ...
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What techniques could a shy person use to have a better outcome when asking questions on this SE?

For someone who is shy, interpersonal skills are always a big challenge. It's especially daunting, because there's always an intrapersonal aspect to it, which is generally much harder to overcome than ...
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Can we ask questions that are based in a standardized environment?

Preface: I work at a hospital and am considering asking a question related to the environment. I understand the standards within very well, but I’d like to see the consensus on acceptable scope. ...
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What changes do I need to make to my answer to get it undeleted?

The Question: Approach friends about getting un-invited last minute with terrible communication and rude behavior? The Deleted Answer: The Interpersonal Skill here is Setting Boundaries. Note though ...
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Should we invite hurting users to come discuss it in chat?

Trigger warning: depression, suicide, anxiety What brings me to ask this question today is because I recently created a Stack Exchange proposal which scope may partially overlap the IPS scope. One of ...
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We have a problem with the way we talk to OP

I wrote this almost two weeks ago. I wanted to be sure I wouldn't say something I will later regret and I also wanted to let my feeling calm down. TL;DR Just read the part about "So, where am I ...
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Should we consider reducing the speed at which we close off-topic questions for new contributors?

Sometimes an off-topic question is asked by a new contributor who doesn't understand well our site requirements yet, or simply didn't take/have the time to read our guidelines for asking a good ...
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Is asking a question lacking specific details acceptable on this site?

Background This was inspired from a question I had asked awhile ago. I will be using it as reference. Review Within the question it asks how one would be able to compliment their friend’s makeup ...
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Was this answer an improper frame challenge?

I'm pretty new here, so I am trying to get a better feel for the scope, etiquette, and topicality of this site. I recently answered a question here, which was moderately well received. However, ...
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Should this answer have been deleted?

The answer: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/20726/21067 Note: This answer had been flagged, go to review and was judged "ok". I'm posting this here because I disagree with the judgment. ...
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Why was my Answer wrongly deleted? Yes, this again

(How) can I ask gifts be in cash/check instead of more restrictive instruments? It answers the headline question directly and succinctly. There is no reason for anything other than Politeness when ...
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Building a library of canonical questions?

Following this discussion, I think we should "build a library" of canonical questions (on meta) that are off-topic for the IPS format but still interesting. The question is: What format do we want ...
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Tour page and representation of IPS

In the current version of the Tour page, the question used as a good IPS question is "When should I use Mrs. or Ms. in emails?". This is a fine, on-topic etiquette question, however, I'm afraid it ...
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What are the data regarding this site's removal from Hot Network Questions? Is this site cleared for potential re-inclusion?

Note: This isn't a request for SE to add this site back to HNQ. Rather, it's a question asking about what evaluation has been made about this site and HNQ overall, and if this site can be cleared for ...
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How Can We Best Incorporate Academic Literature into IPS.SE?

I'm on record as being concerned about the difficulties of basing questions and answers exclusively about published academic literature here on IPS.SE. The summary version is that I don't think that ...
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Was my question really too-broad?

Today I asked this question: Why do people want eye contact when talking? It was closed as too broad and here are the explanations that I got in comments: When expressing emotions, you make eye ...
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How should we define what makes a question asking for academic research on topic?

Background Recently, this question and that one have been asked in the tag academic-research. Both questions were closed within a few hours of being posted and as of this question one has been ...
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Why was my academic-studies question closed and what can I do to have it reopen?

Today, I posted this question: "How are you today?" vs "Are you better today?". Someone left a comment saying that they thought the question wasn't specific enough so I edited it ...
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If a question type is off topic then should it be used on the tour page?

The question: Are “what should I do” questions on topic here? On IPS. Over at Workplace.se, they have an off-topic close reason for "what to do" questions, because it attracts opinion-based ...
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What is the Sandbox? How do I use it?

Where is the sandbox? Why should I use the sandbox? How does the sandbox work? How should I format my sandbox post?
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Are questions asking 'How to know/recognize if I'm in situation X' suitable for Interpersonal Skills?

Sparked by How to know if you’re in an abusive situation? This question was asked yesterday, and I'm wondering if it really should be welcome on a site about Interpersonal Skills. The first ...
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What happened in October 2018?

I've recently come back and posted a few answers, and was surprised at the lack of interaction. In fact, this site seems quite dead. Thus I played with the Stackexchange Data Explorer a bit, it's a ...
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2018: a year in moderation

It's New Year's Day in Stack Exchange land... A distinguishing characteristic of these sites is how they are moderated: We designed the Stack Exchange network engine to be mostly self-regulating, in ...
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Should we remove lifehack solution from answer that also give interpersonal solution?

I'm thinking about this answer who do have a (small) interpersonal solution and a big lifehack part with very distractive pictures. After reading this answer for the first time, what I remembered ...
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What to do when a new version of a closed question indirectly invalidate existing answers?

This question is downvoted and closed for being unclear, and has one answer. I now have a better version of this, which removes all unnecessary information and states what I think clearer. What should ...
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What kinds of interpersonal skills questions aren't opinion based?

Like the title says. Trying to get a handle on what this site likes, but having a tough time making sense of it; e.g. the current top 6 don't seem not opinion-based, but I'm not sure what you all ...
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The objective aspect of subjective questions

I am asking about questions in the line of "would doing X be perceived as intrusive?", "would doing Y invoke the eager to continue?". In general, they ask for the possible outcomes of the target ...
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Should we start deleting old, closed question?

The other day, I asked this question about re-tagging closed questions and, judging by the answers, my conclusion isn't that we should re-tag them, but that we should delete most of them. Here are ...
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Is there an audit on IPS while reviewing?

I just noticed the following: Hat earned - peacekeeper Successfully complete 20 reviews without failing an audit. What's weird is that, since the winterbash started, I made more (much much more) ...
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What is the consensus on valid comments where the post has not been edited in quite a while?

IPS policy regarding comments strictly discards everything that is not either asking for clarification or suggesting improvements. Those comments that do not respect these guidelines - I'll call them "...
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Heavy handed deletion of an answer

Over a year ago, the question How to get spouse to empathetically listen to problems instead of offering solutions? was posted here. My answer was brief, offered a book that was perfect for the ...
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Should we re-tag closed questions?

You may have noticed that I tend to re-tag a lot lately. However, I only re-tag questions that aren't closed. But now I'm wondering, should I also re-tag closed questions? Is this useful? If it's ...
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Tell me **exactly** what is wrong with this Answer [duplicate]

Another Answer was wrongly deleted with not justification. How to show appreciation to colleague? You will note in the comments that the Commenter freely admitted they missed details in the Question....
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Tell me **exactly** what is wrong with this Answer? Again

I have another answer that was wrongly deleted with no explanation or opportunity to address. How to finish a date gracefully? I want to now exactly what wrong with this Answer and why it was ...
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IPS-Related Questions Without Clear IPS Goals, Valid Only in the Case of a Definitive Answer

I have in mind two questions, largely the same in content and approach, but for which I offered opposing opinions on voting to close: Is this a known Interpersonal “Anti-Skill”, if avoided could de-...
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Should we rename the “requests” tag into “making-requests”?

I recently discovered that we have a requests for when the OP need to request something from someone else. When I talked about it in chat, someone got confused and thought that the tag was for "I ...
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Example of answer that was deleted too quickly

This answer (screenshot) is (to me) an example of an answer that was deleted far too quickly. The original question was how a guy could get his friends to get more serious about starting a business ...
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How can we politely communicate to users that ignoring IPS' policy about answering is hurting the site?

I've seen this behavior around for several months now, but observing it again this morning while reviewing the low-quality posts queue made me think it may be worth a meta post. I've observed that ...
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Are we possibly a bit too trigger happy in our moderation?

I find it a bit worrisome seeing how much moderation takes over on IPS. My impression is that we are at a point where the close reasons are too far narrowed down. I understand that questions which ...
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What's the different between the “friend” and “friendship” tag?

Are there any differences between those two tags? Why do we have both? The friends tag have a description; For questions about interactions with friends, people with whom you share personal ...

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