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Told to ask here: Should this Q stay on IPS or move elsewhere, i.e. Linguistics, Psychology, or another? & Why?

Here is the question I asked: Is there an existing concept for what I call "Verbal Cannonballs", which if avoided reduce conflict? I was specifically told by someone on Meta to ask about ...
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Do we really need the “asperger” tag when we already have the “autism” one?

Autism is a spectrum. Every person with autism is different and the way autism affects their life is different for each one of those individuals. For example, some people on the autism spectrum will ...
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What is the difference between the tag social-event and parties?

While I was going through the list of tags, I noticed the tag parties (27 questions) which reminded me of the tag social-event (41 questions). Here is the definition for each one: parties: ...
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Do we really need the “approach” tag?

I was going to the list of tags in the main site when I notice the "approach" one. Here is its description: For questions where the author is looking for a way to achieve their goal. Such as to ...
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Answer deleted after a year and many positive votes

Been awhile since I have been here, hope all is well. I am curious past the very brief explanation given by the moderator and the generic stuff in the help section as to why an answer that clearly ...
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Should comments on this site be permanent and searchable?

A quick note: I'm aware of SE's position on this, which is that this isn't an issue since "nothing can truly be erased from the Internet". I'm holding off on posting a self-answer because I want to ...
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Trust a Moderator even if I disagree in review queue?

The question How can I mediate between my fighting adult siblings? to me seems like it should be closed. What strategies can I employ to mend this relationship as a sibling? To me this seems ...
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Can we start writing “There is no established etiquette” answers instead of closing as primarily opinion based?

I have noticed a trend where users will vote to close a question asking "What is the etiquette for a particular situation?" as primarily opinion based or off topic because they feel there is no ...
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Hiring a lawyer is not legal advice

I see a lot of answer advising to hire a lawyer. This is not an interpersonal solution. Interpersonal solutions should be exhausted before someone spends money hiring a lawyer and inevitably gaining ...
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How should we be handling close-worthy questions that have poor optics?

We've had these before, and I'm sure we'll have them again. Questions that aren't great questions, questions that probably deserve to be closed, that also touch on taboo topics... (most obviously and ...
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On the HNQ and its effects on the site stats

Some time has passed since D-day (the 'D' stands for DeHNQisation) happened 16 October 2018. Time to take a closer look at the site's stats and what effects the HNQ and its absence have had on the ...
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What is the IPS Comment Bot?

What is the "IPS Comment Bot?" Why is it posting in our site chat? What do the messages it posts mean? Can I interact with it? If it posted one of my comments, does that mean my comment was bad?
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How to be a good community moderator while leaving a comment?

As a community, we often leave comments under a question/answer in the hope the question/answer will be improved or just to explain why a question/answer is likely to be closed/deleted. However, ...
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Is it time to cut the canned comments?

There was a time when we'd get floods of answers from users unfamiliar with our site policy. Unable to spend a significant amount of time and effort on each of these posts, many of the IPS users began ...
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What are the things I can ask in IPS? [duplicate]

I’m asking this question because, I have plenty of questions, such as: How do I know if he did… It is possible to gain the skill to get whatever you want from others, no matter who he or she is? And ...
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Why do I get “on hold”?

I’m asking this question because, in this question which I posted, I have corrected myself. And of course, I have bulled only her, but not in front of her. Question: Why do I get “on hold messages”? ...
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Should we rename the “conflict-aversion” tag?

The tag conflict-aversion is badly named. Aversion is a strong dislike or disinclination. A person can be conflict-averse. The description for this tag says it's more likely to be about conflict-...
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Does IPS want to be back on HNQ? [duplicate]

So as you all know, questions on Interpersonal Skills are no longer shown on the Hot Network Questions sidebar. As much as can be said about the way this came to be, it is interesting to reflect on ...
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Should users be approached with a comment about improving old answers? [duplicate]

I understand the desire/need for moderation and to have a certain standard, but I think going through old posts and asking users to improve answers that are over a year old based on rules implemented ...
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What caused this site to be excluded from Hot Network Questions?

Recently, the Stack Exchange team made the decision to exclude this site from the Hot Network questions on the right sidebar of questions across the network and on the stackexchange.com homepage. Why ...
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I can't find my recently deleted answer

Before the weekend I posted an answer which was reasonably well received, with a bunch of upvotes. It was deleted because, although it told an of interesting and relevant experience, it did not ...
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Should we delete answers to closed questions?

We often get the case of someone asking an off-topic question, getting one or more answers, and then the question is finally closed. In some cases the OP even accepts one of the answers. This leads ...
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Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question?

In the recent question "How do you tell a Facebook friend that they might be on the autism spectrum?" the currently most upvoted answer is giving the same instant response I'd have given before ...
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When should one recommend deletion for a Low Quality Post in the queue?

When I first got enough reputation to review the queue, I had no idea how to use my new "powers". I had the hardest time understanding when I should "Recommend Deletion" for the "Low Quality Posts". ...
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Readers' Feedback on Accepted Answer

Question or answer readers may give their up-voting or down-voting without revealing their opinion. This rule is known to me. I have faced one experience. Here, I had discussed with OP for about half ...
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Tell me *Exactly* what is wrong with the Answer

Deleting my Answer was completely unjustified. My Answer is still not restored and no justification for it's deletion has been provided. Please update me on this situation before I escalate. I want ...
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Coming to terms with “Frame Challenges” vs. “Respecting the Question”

I'm a little confused. Recently, it seems there's been a push to "respect the premise of the question" in answers. It's causing answers like this to be heavily downvoted and flagged with comments ...
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Should substantially edited answers retain their existing votes?

Both a moderator and I made comments on an answer to this question today to the effect that it (i) did not address the OP's question in any way and (ii) proposed lying to avoid having to face the ...
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There's no point to down votes if comments to them are discouraged

It has recently been revealed to me that the community policy discourages comments that explain down votes, at least on answers. This defeats the actual purpose of the down vote, and decreases the ...
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Maximum Up-Voted Answer

Example An answer-1, answer-2 which has short description (3 to 4 lines) and not formatted. It has got maximum up-votes. Question Maximum up-voted answer on IPS means high quality answer? Well ...
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Why would a moderator delete a comment to a question which requests down vote clarification?

Within the past day I posted a question regarding a personal experience of mine that I genuinely wanted advice on. Although I don’t mind getting tons of upvotes on questions, as an experienced Stack ...
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Regarding the deletion of an answer for not answering the core question

In the recent question How to communicate to my mother that I find it hurtful when she cooks dessert for everyone except me who is vegan? my answer got deleted. I see the point of the answer not ...
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How do I write a good answer?

The requirements for answers on IPS may be a bit different from what you're used to. We can't simply run your answer through a compiler and see if it compiles and works. But here's some stuff you can ...
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Templates for leaving comments

This thread is a list of useful comment templates for common situations on IPS. The full list of current templates can be found below. Please note that those comments are only to be used as template ...
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Can you add “how-to-deal with a situation”, “advice” and “suggestion”?

Can you please add these 3 tags? Because, I’d like to have permission to ask about “how to deal with....”
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Answer that should not have been deleted

I just ran into this answer that was deleted. Maybe there is some legalistic hair-splitting reason why it was deleted. But my lord, it's the right answer. He asked her out on a date (see Seinfeld)....
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Should we add the (red) faq tag?

Today, I spend almost 20 minutes looking for the meta post "How do I write a good answer?". Spoiler alert, the post that I clearly remember upvoting doesn't exist because this post was about questions ...
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Why was this question about building a rapport with clients closed?

This question asking how to build a rapport with clients with whom the OP shares few (if any) common interests was closed as Too Broad. The help center states that on topic questions should be ...
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Should we add a stack-specific close reason for off topic “inTRApersonal” questions?

I find there are a lot of questions here that ask about inTRApersonal issues and are thus off-topic. As someone who votes to close off-topic questions, I think having a specific close reason for this ...
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How come this question and the answers are IPS?

https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/a/18360/14435 Actually I liked reading the question and answers, but you guys need to play fair rules with everybody or accepting interesting but not straight ...
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Didn't Understand the reason behind Answer Delete

This Was my answer , Okay Everyone said and presented their views , I did that too ,Even my thing really worked for me as well as the problem was also faced by me so I just wrote what I did . Why ...
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Answer deleted as duplicate - not a duplicate

There is a recent question about an argument concerning veganism. I wrote a short answer Well, you started: "In fact, not all wines are vegan" Just don't make controversial (that people won'...
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Can I ask a question about writing an 'about me' page of my blog as it will be read by my readers?

I am working on my blog. In the about me page i want to write my story. I suffered from depression and the blog is eventual output of that. I want to ask if that is a good way to communicate with ...
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Most Helpful Response to Intrapersonal (Problem the person has with themselves) Questions

I'm relatively new here (and so apologies if this is not a relevant discussion), but I've seen a lot of questions asked by users that pertain to Intrapersonal issues rather than Interpersonal issues. ...
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Are questions on understanding someone's behaviour on-topic?

I have a friend who regularly misses on schedules, even when it is about helping them out. A question on how I can get them to correct their course is perfectly acceptable on IPS.SE. However, there ...
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How do I write a good question?

Writing a good subjective question about Interpersonal Skills has proven to be difficult, but here are some points you can keep in mind to help you: Have a question title that accurately and ...
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Can someone please explain what is wrong here and how can I fix it?

I asked this question. It got approved in the sandbox, but apparently it will be closed and downvoted on the main site. The only explanation I got is based on a fallacious interpretation of the ...
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Are there any suggested question structures?

Is there a guideline I can follow for forming questions?
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Should this answer remain?

Upon review of the moderation queues, I found this answer flagged because of its length and content. The problem with this answer is that it does not answer the question (at least not exactly: OP ...
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Can we undelete this answer to the heat wave / fan question?

There's a question posted earlier today that described a situation where the OP is conflicted about getting their fan back from their colleagues, due to the extremely hot weather that they are all ...

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