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Interpersonal Skills is not the "court of public opinion" of Stack Exchange. If you have a serious grievance with the users, moderators, or community managers on this site or any other site in the network, that needs to be voiced (preferably in a calm and open manner) on the child meta of the site the issue relates to if it's a single-site issue or on Meta ...


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Write a "Don't!" answer, explaining why not. People are probably asking these kinds of questions because they've heard "Don't!", but they don't fully grasp why they shouldn't. I would say that "Don't because..." can be a really good answer. Knowing why you shouldn't do something is valuable. While simply "Don't!" doesn't really answer the question and ...


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I hate to say it, but "screw them" is likely to always be a possible answer. Even when a question specifically asks for a polite answer, there's an outside chance that being polite isn't an option or isn't a great way to handle the situation. Also there's an awful lot of gray area between polite and rude. There are, of course, extremes at both ends, from ...


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Questions about learning and applying skills are on-topic. Questions about specific Stack Exchange grievances need to be taken to either Meta Stack Exchange, or the SE staff.


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The Stack Exchange's meta support site was created to deal with social issues as well as technical. While such questions may involve interpersonal concerns, I'm going to ask that we don't split these conversations between two sites. Ask your questions on meta.stackexchange.com (or the specific meta site where the problem occurred) so the broader Stack ...


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In accordance with the generic principle of making the internet a better place, Stack Exchange in general and Interpersonal.SE in particular certainly encourage constructive solutions, and also discourage negative-minded advice even if it happens to suit OP's expectations. So questions don't really need to specify any moral obligations on how answers may ...


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After a wonderful chat with Tinkeringbell, Sphennings and Spiral Succulent, I've drawn the following conclusions. It seems that the largest reason that questions are viewed as "convince" questions is because they focus more on how the asker wants the situation to change than how they can change it themselves. (both Tinkeringbell and Sphennings also ...


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I think there's an important distinction between Workplace.se and here that is relevant. There are a lot of constraints that are relevant to a professional environment, and the whole concept of "professionalism". Relative position in a company hierarchy will also be a major factor. Due to this, I understand why this would be problematic. However, getting ...


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I wouldn't worry too much about frequently asking questions, provided that they're good questions. Something I used to tell my kids was: The only stupid question is the one you already know the answer to. And even this isn't always a problem on SE. You're always free to answer your own questions here. What I'm trying to say is that questions are ...


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Mods are not able to lift question bans. Even if they could, they'd be unlikely to do so as the ban is there to give you some time to work on your question asking skills. You will be able to post questions again once your ban period expires. With that being said, if you continue to post questions that the community deems as low-quality, you will get another ...


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Just before I start writing, I figured I'd let you know that there is a "Public Speaking" proposal lurking around on Area 51 if you'd be interested in that. It's been trying to get off the ground for a while now I think. My general test to figuring out if something is on-topic is to ask the following question: Is this question about interacting with people ...


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First things first: as Journeyman Geek notes, if we're required by law to reveal information about the author of a post, we're gonna reveal information about the author of a post. Our privacy policy is linked to at the bottom of every page - read it. As with most sites on the 'Net, "privacy policy" is a traditional name for a list of scenarios in which we ...


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In general, Question X is closed as a duplicate of Question Y if answers to Question Y would answer Question X (in the case where Question Y has answers). See, for instance, the help center: Questions should be closed by casting close votes if: they are sufficiently similar to existing questions and would be answered identically to them. If you ask a ...


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I see those as completely valid questions, and it is absolutely legitimate to answer them. Why should the questions and their authors be punished by being closed, downvoted, deleted, or something else? What is wrong with this type of question? The one thing which I see as wrong here is that they go against a very important principle in interpersonal skills ...


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The reason we don't generally like hypothetical questions on IPS is because it's difficult to keep them from getting too broad. The "don't ask" help page you were looking at does mention "You should only ask practical, answerable questions based on actual problems that you face." This is explained a little more in the "What topics ...


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I think this is related to Are hypothetical questions welcome? Myers-Briggs is not universally accepted and is tricky to make general statements about. Some people find it useful, but you can't really say what a typical INFP is like beyond apparently being introverted, intuitive, feeling, and perceiving. You're not going to get good answers with your example ...


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Its kinda vague - but its worth considering a few things. I'd start (and finish) by saying - focus on the victim not the crime. If you read nothing else, read this. Moderators have fairly limited access to PII. Lets assume anything you have in your profile, as well as your IP address is visible. As far as I recall, there's only one real case where Stack ...


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I voted to close this as too-broad (it says off-topic because that's what the majority of votes were) because it's asking us how they could be a better salesman when we haven't got any form of demographic information on the customers, yes they're asking on behalf of the united-states but What kind of jewelry are they selling? What kind of age-group/class ...


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In general, these questions are fine. Part of interpersonal skills is understanding how to communicate with the people around us. Sometimes we need to be reminded that we shouldn't do something. There's no reason to take any of the actions in your list. We actually have a few other examples here that are worth talking about. How to tell friends something ...


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It could be very likely that an answerer suggests something contrary to what the OP’s environment recommends. This is up the writer of the question: We already ask people to mention what they have considered trying/tried when writing a question. Guidelines on communication from within your specific environment are such a thing: We can assume you're aware of ...


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Definately, without a doubt. As I've been told in both my questions now (and what no doubt I'll be reminded in questions to come) is that the devil.is indeed in the detail. We could have tags for all sorts of relationships, and I think we should encourage more tags in this private beta. However once public beta comes out, or further down the line of private ...


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I understood the question more as "How do I deal with her behaviour?" as in "What options do I have?" - and it's very well possible to give a (non-negative) answer to that; e.g. advising how to react and how to set boundaries by controlling one's own behaviour (as e.g. Erik did). "You can't control someone else's behaviour" doesn't mean "You can't react to ...


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So, you've run afoul of the low quality question ban algorithm. The details are kept secret by Stack Exchange, so I have no way of knowing what exactly set it off. Obviously, downvoted posts hurt you, even if they've been deleted, and you do have one of those (score at -8; deleted by the community). Unfortunately, I can't tell you any more than that about ...


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It depends. If the questions are polar opposites, or if they could stand on their own without being supplemented with explanations from the other they should be closed as too broad. For example How can you make someone to respect your wishes? could stand some better formatting, but really their "questions" are the supplementary of the same core goal. In ...


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The new version presents 4 more options to solve the problem and explains why they would work That does not sound as if you're making your question clearer. It sounds like you found four possible ways to solve your problem and want us to pick one for you. One option even elaborates how I would follow the solution given in the answer, further makes it ...


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Depending on the nature of the crime there's a really good chance that you'll receive a "seek professional help" closure. Have you considered reaching out to a victim's advocate? Some organizations even offer help and support for victims who don't want to file charges, it may be a way to steer your friend toward some help. If this is the sort of ...


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I think this will often depend on what the body of the question says. If the body of the question supports such a change to the title, I don't see any problem with editing the title to match; presumably most answerers will have at least acknowledged the body question in their answer, and the OP's more nuanced question in the body is presumably what the OP ...


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You've asked 2 questions recently, some of which have not been received very well by the community. Everyone learns at their own pace, and it’s okay to make some mistakes. However, the reception your questions have received thus far might ultimately block your account from asking questions entirely. Based on that network-wide automated message it looks ...


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I believe you're focussing on the wrong thing here. To me this was most obvious in the following sentence: For example, say I ask: “How can a woman compliment another woman’s makeup?” That would specifically tie the question down to women asking other women. You are entirely correct that this ties the question to a very specific situation. But this doesn't ...


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As MariLouA stated in her comment: The two questions refer to two individuals who seem to have deeper more complex issues than a lack of confidence, the best answer is to seek professional help and therapy because a 200-word answer posted by a stranger, however well-meaning, will always be insufficient. A good answer would entail writing a book, this is a Q&...


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