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I hadn't set eyes on the question until I saw this meta post, so this is a new perspective. I see several issues with it. It's not clear. Perhaps it's just me, but I don't understand the question itself. Two sentences in that post have question marks. One is the title: Can I tell my girlfriend that I'm too lazy to meet up? What does "Can I" mean? ...


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"Just do it in a friendly way" isn't an answer if it doesn't explain how to do it and what "a friendly way" is. Questions like this are usually looking for phrasing suggestions, ways to approach the other person, when to speak up versus let something go, etc. If the question doesn't provide enough context to do that, then it should be put on hold as ...


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Well, let's see... You're describing a common scenario: someone is asking a question you don't want to answer. You've searched the 'Net and found a number of general-purpose responses to such questions... That haven't worked. So what should you learn from this? Perhaps this: people aren't simple machines whose behavior can be readily controlled with a ...


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I've voted to reopen, but that is largely based upon your last edit. In the original format, your question seemed to be very restricted as to what types of answers would address your problem. Telling your parents the truth was not acceptable. Telling them a lie was something you wanted to avoid. But the focus was on the specific context of your ...


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Ex Software Recommendations pro-tem mod here - with experience on a site with an odd scope, I don't think these actions are wrong, especially as it was the community, rather than an individual. And... from an outsider's perspective, there's a fundamental issue with questions like that. There's good subjective, bad subjective, and using the internet as your ...


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This is now live with the close reason as suggested (last box on the answer) Let's take some inspiration by the options users have posted before: I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because unfortunately, this question appears to be asking “What should I do?”, which the community has determined to not be a good fit for Interpersonal Skills Stack ...


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As one of those who originally voted to close it, I'm ready to receive a public beating, but please hear me out first. Flater wrote a comment, that covers it excellently and is worth being presevered here: I would argue that this is not a matter of interpersonal skill. Workplace rules are in place regardless of how you feel about them. Your supervisor's ...


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I propose the following close reason: Questions seeking advice on what to do instead of how to do it are off-topic. It's just not what this Stack is about. Additionally, they're a bad fit for a Q&A site because it's difficult to determine the correct answer, and strangers on the Internet may not be the best source of advice anyway. For more ...


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Slightly reworded: I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it appears to be asking “What should I do?”, which is currently not a good on-topic question for Interpersonal Skills. Instead, tell us your goal, and we will help you achieve that. I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it appears to be asking “What should I do?”...


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All four of those example questions have different non-standard responses. Part of what makes the non-standard responses "clever" is how they relate to the inquiry itself. You use these examples in your question: 2.1. Humour “How much are you paid?” You could say, “Half what I’m worth!” 2.2. Half-Truths "How much did that cost?” You could ...


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Update: The OP has listened to our queries and has re-worded as such, I think it's fit to reopen now. Good job! I voted to close this as off-topic when really I should have chosen 'unclear what you're asking'. Like you said, he could have been asking about the interpersonal problem of him and his wife, but it's our job to read what is asked, not what might ...


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There is no answer to that question. Depending on the person, the answer will be different. The OP has already said that his girlfriend was mad at him. So, the answer is, for that woman, it is not acceptable. But if you ask ten different women you are as likely to get ten different answers. And each answer will be wrong if it isn't what the OP's girlfriend ...


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I'd love seeing more people use custom close reason comments. And if you're going to use the same one a lot, the autoreviewcomments script is a great place to start! You can just add it to your browser (chrome/firefox) as an extension, or as an userscript to use with TamperMonkey or GreaseMonkey. Cautionary note though: I like these autocomments a lot ...


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I agree with Tinkeringbell. The question is not clear at all. The variety of guesses about the OP's intentions in the myriad of deleted comments on the question and the answers that do the same show that, while many want to answer, there's insufficient information to write a good one. Your answer says that she's afraid to be alone with the OP, while ...


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I saw a little of this and I think there was another angle which hasn't been discussed yet. The poster's issue was that he was shocked by a poetic description of a rape, and that such explicit kind of talk was against the usual mores of his culture. A number of the responses were of the tone "Oh, so you're in favor of rape are you" or "Art trumps ...


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Yes it should be reopened. See this discussion on the broader topic. My comment on your question suggested that you might get a better answer on the Workplace, but wasn't meant to say it was off-topic here. I think some people might have interpreted it as such.


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I feel like I should throw in my $0.02 since I answered the question.. After the post and initial comments, I interpreted the question as: Why would my girlfriend get upset after I told her I was too lazy to meet up? Yes, the sentence ending with a question mark was "Is it really that strange?", which is opinion-based. So I asked OP in comments what the ...


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I was the one that made that comment, and I simply used the format given in the "other" reason, and there really isn't much to say on that question. "other" option gives us a nice format of "I am voting to close this question as off topic because...." so that we can just fill in the blank there. I have no idea where the question could be asked as well. ...


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TL/DR -- Question is appropriate, examples are worth the risk Some thoughts: First, I think apaul is on point with the notion that specific examples may distract. Here's another discussion of where the specific example may have distracted from the intent of the question (Was the question about offensive language in poetry handled appropriately?). That ...


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An afterthought from my React vs Respond question: After a quick discussion with OldPadawan, I came to this conclusion. Perhaps the community was quick to react to the question, seeing the explicit lyrics mentioned it it. The initial avalanche of downvotes show that, I think. Instead, if we were to take a moment to think and then respond, instead, maybe it ...


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Regarding the downvotes: Maybe. Maybe not. Here's why, in Jeff Atwood ♦'s words on ELU meta about a question containing the words "boobs" and "tits": Looks like some members of the community don't like this question. This question is technically allowed by the terms of service -- but so is anonymously downvoting content that you don't ...


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I would suggest one more edit to the title, along the lines of How can my cousin restore harmony between his Indian mother and American mother-in-law? You're really asking for advice on your cousin's behalf, and the whole string of relationships in aunt's daughter-in-law's mother is hard to parse. Putting your cousin at the center of the relationship ...


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It is now totally reworded, and I have voted to reopen. Close > Improve > Reopen is the right procedure. If we had not closed it earlier, we would have received poor answers. It would help no one, not even the OP.


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