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Your question is about language, not Interpersonal Skills. There are other sites on the network for questions about language, words, and what they mean. Those sites even take requests for specific words. There have been numerous discussions in the past, and the outcome was simply that Interpersonal Skills are about the behaviours you use when interacting ...


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I was one of the users that upvotes @apaul's answer. And I did that after the question was put on hold. Why? Because the question could have been perfectly valid one. I voted to close as the first user, when the question was still in its first revision. I chose off-topic with a custom reason: because we're not here to give you ready made excuses. We'...


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Bad questions usually fit into one of the following categories: Poorly constructed (not enough information to clarify what's being asked) Too broad Not on topic for IPS When anyone answers one of these types of questions, their answers tend to fall into one of the corresponding categories: Not helpful (doesn't actually help the OP because we can't tell ...


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This answer follows guidance from Robert (that applied to a different category of close-worthy questions). I personally feel that style takes too long to get to the point of what's wrong with this question, but I think the style of that answer's proposal is otherwise good. So here's a variation on it that tries to keep the soft, helpful tone with fewer ...


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I guess I'm the guilty party here, so I'll try to explain why I did what I did. I saw the question, read it and like most people downvoted pretty immediately. I saw it had close votes, but the question was not yet closed. I skipped the comment section and started writing what I think was an appropriate answer to a bad question. Bad meaning that what the OP ...


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Well, let's see... You're describing a common scenario: someone is asking a question you don't want to answer. You've searched the 'Net and found a number of general-purpose responses to such questions... That haven't worked. So what should you learn from this? Perhaps this: people aren't simple machines whose behavior can be readily controlled with a ...


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I'm sorry that you've had some of your questions closed. I know that it can be extremely frustrating, on the objective sites and here, on a site where you're sharing details about yourself, it can feel even worse. Please know that having a question closed isn't a failure and it's not personal. It's also worth knowing that question closure isn't permanent. ...


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I've voted to reopen, but that is largely based upon your last edit. In the original format, your question seemed to be very restricted as to what types of answers would address your problem. Telling your parents the truth was not acceptable. Telling them a lie was something you wanted to avoid. But the focus was on the specific context of your ...


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In general, we should always assume the best - at least initially. And especially on a 'subjective SE' site like IPS, we know some people will not manage to write their post in a way that "works" - a fair few people come here specifically because they have problems in this area. So some people upvoted an answer - that will happen on good answers. Even if ...


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but still gave a close vote without waiting out an edit. That's basically what close-votes are for. To put a question on-hold pending more clarification and improvements, to avoid you getting bad answers. We can't go sitting around leaving comments and then waiting days before closing stuff (granted, it does happen but isn't ideal). If someone thinks a post ...


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I find that question - and many "how do I ... on Stack Exchange?" questions - problematic for a few reasons... They feel like someone trying to do an end-run around having an actual meta discussion. This is subjective, but I can't ignore it - these meta sites exist precisely because it's healthy for folks in a community such as this to be able to talk to ...


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"Being withdrawn" is very vague. Without a more specific problem statement, it would take a shelf of books to even begin to address the entire spectrum of problems your friend may be having. Stack Exchange Q&A is generally designed to answer very specific questions that can be answered definitively in the space of a post. @Catija suggested in the ...


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Minus the commentary about foodstuffs, your situation appears to be: A girl gave me her number and I want to text her and ask her out. Congrats! Go for it! What do you need our help with? This is why I commented: I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because questions asking what to say are off topic for this site. You already know what you want ...


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I think the questions being considered duplicate should be done pragmatically, with the main criteria being: would answers to the original question answer this one as well? This is still a bit subjective and opinion based, but at least there is something to guide the opinion.


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If you look at this question on Meta.SE, you'll see that yes, it was because it was posted from mobile. When a question is closed (or put on hold), there's a client side thingamajiggy that disables the post answer button. However, quoting @TimStone on his answer to the above linked question: For users answering from a mobile device, there's no client-...


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If we're trying to base our close reason on the recommendation of Robert, let's look at his examples: If this is going to happen, it will take a bit of study for me to write it up. It's a delicate balance between brevity and making a clear, strong point. The idea is to (1) start with an affirmative statement about what the site is about so it becomes all ...


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Potential for misuse of the practice Once starting this practice, is there a potential for people to take it too far? For example: ThrowawayUser87 asks a long, convoluted, multi-question, "what should I do?" question. I see the "kernel" of a question I feel I could answer and create a self answered question. However I pulled a "kernel" that is still not a ...


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"Asking "What should I do?" is off topic. - Questions should ask for help achieving a specific goal. Your question is asking for personal advice on "what to do" without defining a goal; this is too subjective. Edit your question to explain what you hope to achieve and how you would like to interact with the others involved." Why "What should I do?" is off ...


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Since I'm already at it in the comments, I left a comment that clearly states why I closed that question. The OP of that question has provided no data of what arguments they tried to use to convince the parents and how they went about using those arguments. All we know is that OP told parents, but OP left out the most important what they told and how they ...


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Actually I've read several Q&A about that being opinion based is not always a problem in IPS.SE because sometiems its simply the core of interpersonal communication. Interpersonal SE definitely has questions that are too opinion based. It is true that all questions here will be subjective to a certain degree. But there are 'good' and 'bad' subjective ...


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Yes, we need a custom close-reason to close questions that require professional help. I've done a quick investigation: On the 12th of October 2017, out of 107 questions that are currently closed/on-hold, at least 12 are closed and have comments to the general core of 'this is something where the OP would benefit of professional help'. 10 of these are ...


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Slightly reworded: I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it appears to be asking “What should I do?”, which is currently not a good on-topic question for Interpersonal Skills. Instead, tell us your goal, and we will help you achieve that. I'm voting to close this question as off-topic because it appears to be asking “What should I do?”...


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Why was my question closed? Because, just like EmC commented: Questions asking on what to say are off-topic. Lemme quote the question: However, given that the only topic of discussion that we had was about Taylor ham, I'm not exactly sure what to text her about. I don't know anything else about her, other than the fact that she's from New Jersey. She ...


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That depends. Are the answers useful? Is the question fixable? Is the close-worthiness borderline or blatant? I can't speak for others, but if I saw a question that seemed appropriate and invested effort in writing a good answer, only to have the question closed and my answer immediately deleted, I'd be less likely to contribute answers in the future. ...


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The new version presents 4 more options to solve the problem and explains why they would work That does not sound as if you're making your question clearer. It sounds like you found four possible ways to solve your problem and want us to pick one for you. One option even elaborates how I would follow the solution given in the answer, further makes it ...


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179 questions reopened by the community out of 1,063 is a 16.84% reopen rate. Conversely, looking at the rate of reopen events on non-deleted questions vs. total closed questions on StackOverflow with some quick SQL magic1 shows they have a lifetime of 47,965 reopen events on undeleted questions and 3,145,501 total closed questions. Or a 1.52% reopen rate. ...


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About this specific question While the title seems fairly clear, the body of the post is less so. There's one phrase in particular that feels problematic to me. She's flying in later this week and I'm not really sure what to do, I don't want to hurt her feelings. I've thought about just taking her out on the few free days I have while she's here, even ...


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All four of those example questions have different non-standard responses. Part of what makes the non-standard responses "clever" is how they relate to the inquiry itself. You use these examples in your question: 2.1. Humour “How much are you paid?” You could say, “Half what I’m worth!” 2.2. Half-Truths "How much did that cost?” You could ...


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Update: The OP has listened to our queries and has re-worded as such, I think it's fit to reopen now. Good job! I voted to close this as off-topic when really I should have chosen 'unclear what you're asking'. Like you said, he could have been asking about the interpersonal problem of him and his wife, but it's our job to read what is asked, not what might ...


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