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Apologies and parting notes

On the one hand, I'm sorry to see you go because... selfishly I suppose... I saw you as potentially a hugely positive influence on the site. On the other hand, you clearly haven't been happy here in ...
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Apologies and parting notes

From one retired line cook to another, I'm pretty damn sorry to see you go. I saw you shooting flares up, I saw you doing what you thought was right, and at the same time I knew that trying to fight ...
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33 votes

Apologies and parting notes

I'm sorry this wasn't the right community for you - or, at least, that it currently isn't. I've been quieter the last few weeks because this site has been a huge struggle for me for various reasons ...
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Why was another one of my answers deleted?

I don't particularly like answers that say "There's no interpersonal solution here." Two points spring to mind: It's very, very hard to show that there's no interpersonal solution to an interpersonal ...
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No apologies and parting notes

As there's no real question here, but only some POV, pros and cons points, I'll just address some of these points, hopefully to challenge your claims. But I also had lots of comments and answers ...
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Why was my answer deleted last night?

Your answer fails the most important test: Answers must answer the question What's the question: Title: How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know ...
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Why was my answer (8456) deleted?

I'm the moderator who deleted your answer. Let me first include the original form, in its entirety: He's not going to stop liking it, and refusing to do it inside a marriage is selfish - marriage is ...
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Question 15411 had a high rated answer disappear - how do I determine why this happened?

Here is the text of the answer, verbatim: On Slack, you can copy the URL of an earlier message and paste it into the chat, and Slack will quote the earlier message along with a timestamp. This is the ...
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Tell me **exactly** what is wrong with this Answer? Again

As @tinkeringbell commented below your answer (and UV by 5 persons): I think what this answer seems to be lacking is an explanation of why this will end the date both graceful and without hurting ...
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No apologies and parting notes

Your answer wasn't deleted because it violated the be nice policy. A mod left a comment explaining why the answer was deleted and what was needed to edit the answer to qualify it for undeletion. They ...
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Why was my answer deleted?

I wasn't involved, but I would have flagged it for deletion if I'd seen it. First off, you answered an off-topic question. Note that the other answer there responds to an on-topic IPS question, ...
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Tell me *Exactly* what is wrong with the Answer

Here is the review task for your answer: 6 out of 6 reviewers recommended deletion. That's what the "as recommended by the community" part referred to. Post score is not an indication of well-...
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Kindly un-delete the valid and nice answer posted to the question

It looks like your answer was deleted because it was rude and failed to address the question. Your answer was effectively a "don't do that" which was already covered in more than one answer, with ...
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Tell me **exactly** what is wrong with this Answer? Again

As Tinkeringbell said in their comment. I think what this answer seems to be lacking is an explanation of why this will end the date both graceful and without hurting feelings. On this site we ...
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Example of answer that was deleted too quickly

We've discussed answers like that, at length, before. The most notable post is most likely Should we be more strict about one-line answers?. A good subjective answer meets a few points, described ...
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What changes do I need to make to my answer to get it undeleted?

I'll try one last time. Saying 'the skill you're looking for is X and here's a list of stuff to do' isn't an answer. You're making grocery shopping lists, and writing down recipes. 'You need a ...
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Is it alright to delete a answer and post a different one?

In this specific case, write a new answer I found two pretty polarizing cases from Meta.SE. One, Is it OK to write a new answer after I deleted a downvoted one earlier on? is answered with: Yes, ...
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Would it be possible to undelete my Answer?

We require answers on IPS to provide backing up explanation as to why what you're suggesting in your answer would work in OP's situation. It helps in preventing usage of inadequate solutions to a ...
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Can this answer be salvaged?

I'll say no, for the sole reason that if you remove the rude/abusive parts, there's nothing left. I'm going to talk about this even while leaving context about this user out of it. The first two ...
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I can't find my recently deleted answer

Here is how you can view your recently deleted answers: If this looks like too much work for you, you can go to this link (replacing 4957 with your user number): https://interpersonal.stackexchange....
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Tell me **exactly** what is wrong with this Answer

The comments explain this. One user mentioned: And why this won't be seen as too friendly (a personalized gift does sound friendly to me as you took the time to really think about it) and won't be ...
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Heavy handed deletion of an answer

I see a mod simply deleted the answer. I'm the one that deleted that answer, after it was again flagged for being not in line with what makes a good subjective answer. As it was already flagged ...
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What should be the minimum time frame a bad answer gets to live?

The minimum possible amount of time This might sound strange or harsh at first, but hear me out here... Removing an answer not fit for the site quickly will A. Protect that answer from receiving ...
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6 votes
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I edited my answer. What can I do to get it undeleted?

Generally, if your answer was deleted by a moderator and you believe that the problem is now resolved, you should flag your answer, explaining the situation and pointing out that you think you've ...
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Answer deleted after a year and many positive votes

I was the moderator who deleted the answer; I should explain my reasoning. The question comes from someone interested in cross-dressing who's asking about deflecting awkward questions he receives ...
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6 votes

Example of answer that was deleted too quickly

After thinking more about it, the biggest issue of all with this deleted answer is that it doesn't define any use of interpersonal skills... These are all tasks the OP could do by themselves, no ...
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6 votes
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Are users notified by the site when their answer gets deleted?

Actually, no. Users won't get notified of their deleted answer. From this Main meta answer for What events trigger an inbox notification?, Posts "answer" Another user answers one ...
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Ok, someone really needs to fully explain this one

Four hours after you posted your answer, a mod left the following comment As this is a frame challenge, can you add to your post what typically happens, in your experience, when you have tried to ...
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