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So, I've been sitting and reading and thinking for some time now about what everyone's written in comments and answers here. I think I'd like to reiterate, emphasize, and expand on a point Arwen Undómiel brought up in the question. Comments can't be downvoted or edited. That's important on a site like Interpersonal Skills. Answers here do more than just ...


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Here is what I see necessary for a good frame challenge on IPS: A clear explanation of why the author disagrees with the frame of the question. A presentation of an alternate frame An explanation of how the new frame will solve the OP's problem The best frame challenges I've seen on IPS have all been similar to this answer from ArtOfCode. The general form ...


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I think a good frame challenge answer has two key components: Thoroughly explains why the proposed action isn't a good one You need to explain to the OP why you are not going to be giving them an answer to the question they asked. If you can explain why you believe it's a bad idea to go with the requested approach, that gives credence to why you feel you ...


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Some explanation of where the information and advice in the post come from. This could be personal experience, professional training, or some kind of research such as academic studies, an on-point article by some relevant authority, or even a Wikipedia article. If an answer is based purely on "common sense" or "logic" it should be backed up in some way to ...


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An IPS-related solution to the question We are a site about IPS. As such, we should at least try to offer an IPS related solution to the question. This should be accompanied by an explanation about what the expected effects of this approach would be. Potential follow-ups and/or drawbacks/backfires should also be discussed, as to give the OP the most ...


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Contain something new Duplicate answers should be removed; however, this question about What are the rules with regard to duplicate answers? outlines that partial duplicates should not be deleted. Depending how much is copied you may decide to down vote. But if there is at least one aspect of the answer that has not been addressed already then it is ...


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I propose we don't actually treat these questions any differently from others. Personally, as someone who can immediately vote to delete negatively scored questions when they are closed, I usually ask myself: What would it take for this to become on topic? Is that even possible? Does the "essence" of the question somehow work on this site? Most of the ...


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If it is a valid IPS question and does not involve threats of physical harm, leave it open. If it's off-topic: easy solution, close but leave a comment pointing to relevant resources. If it sounds like OP is in physical danger: this main meta post is focused on posts from suicidal users, but is relevant to physical abuse as well. Close the post as ...


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The real issue with a provocative word isn't whether or not the word is actually rude/offensive/bad/etc... The issue that is relevant to IPS (which Tinkeringbell pointed out in a comment) is the volume of pointless side discussion that it creates. I think the more general question isn't to decide whether manspreading is offensive or not... but more about ...


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The simplest answer is that if you see an answer with delete votes and no comment, then add a comment. If you cast a delete vote, add a comment. I figured that, since I was the first one to vote, someone else would leave a comment afterward. Not necessarily. The only thing that you can control on the stack is the actions that you take. There are several ...


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From the question activity, I believe you're referring to yesterday's comments asking for editing an answer that does not meet the site requirements. You may be aware that IPS is in public beta, which means we're still defining and tuning the scope, guidelines and requirements. Last year the community updated what they think should be prerequisites for an ...


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Yes If a user has posted some information on IPS before, it is perfectly acceptable to consider it when answering a new question. An Example Let's say that a user posted a question in which they mentioned being on the autism spectrum. Then they post a new question that doesn't mention this, but you think that their autism is relevant to the situation ...


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One option that hasn't been mentioned in the other answers is using post notices. Full disclosure: I'm not convinced this is the right way to go, but since some early responses here seem to be against deleting content, it might be a good compromise. So, I'm posting it for discussion. As you noted we don't currently have a custom post notice, but there's ...


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Yes, but... If there is some information that you think is important to answering the question, but that doesn't appear in the question itself, we have a process for this! If you're confident that the user won't take offense to this information being public (something like "they have a dog"), edit it into the question yourself and leave a comment ...


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Ælis, thank you for adding more information about your thought processes and experiences. I tried to keep the meta question a bit more general than your specific main-site question because I think that it's (at least superficially) similar situations in the future which are going to cause more substantial issues, but as you've referenced your specific ...


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For a long period, answers with 'reasoning' were indeed not moderated on IPS for 'lack of back up'. Also, from basically the first days of the site people have noted problems with posts with no explanations (like one line answers) and wrong explanations (e.g. cultural differences). Even our earliest question on implementing a back-up policy already mentions ...


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About this specific question While the title seems fairly clear, the body of the post is less so. There's one phrase in particular that feels problematic to me. She's flying in later this week and I'm not really sure what to do, I don't want to hurt her feelings. I've thought about just taking her out on the few free days I have while she's here, even ...


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Address the question Most answers must both address and answer the question, but there are a few cases where it is okay to post an answer that only addresses the question. The first method is the Frame Challenge. Frame Challenges address the question, but answer it in a completely different way than was asked. (i.e. they challenge the frame in which the ...


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For now, we should flag and comment but leave the answers. Serious problem answers can be dealt with on a case-by-case basis. Calling them "bad" answers seems like a mistake to me. Standards change, but it seems unrealistic to me that we can have all of: Standards which we can change/refine/improve over time A long-standing record of questions and ...


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Where exactly does NAA end and a Frame Challenge begin? A frame challenge is accepted as form of answering on this site where someone answers a question in a wholly different way the querent never asked for. The important factors here are that it still answers the question and that our site considers it an acceptable way of answering. Putting it this way ...


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How to avoid answers being deleted without a comment? You can't really stop a post with no comment getting deleted. It is us who have to make sure that OP knows why their post was deleted. However, OP will always see a link to this page whenever their answer is deleted, but this link is not that helpful in case of IPS. So, what should you do? If you're ...


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Warning: This is not a complete answer. I don't think we lose anything by commenting in order to ask people to improve their answers (ie: provide back up to it). So, as a first step, I do believe that flagging as "NAA" and commenting under the answers is what we should do. If one of the answerers improves their post, then we can proceed as we usually do (...


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Show good faith in the OP's request before you refute it. Try to honor the OP's request by giving a good answer to their question, then redirect them if you think that is the best course. If these types of answers are possible or palatable, they are probably better than a complete redirect without answering the question. I am not necessarily saying you ...


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I don't think we should delete answers that were considered of good quality at the time just because they don't follow today's guidelines. Besides that, people that answered took the time and effort to write the answer. We should value that in the first place. Asking for backup in the comments is the right way to do it if we wanna keep it on today's ...


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tl;dr Should we allow/should we continue to allow such broad questions on IPS? Yes. Questions of the form "Why do people do [X]?" are not too broad. I have here an analysis of the specific question that sparked this meta post using my suggested criteria showing that it is an acceptable and answerable question If so, what standards will we use to ...


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I do like the idea of giving a bit more background to that entry, especially after reading concerns that in its present state, it may look to newcomers like a single mod was dictating policy without community input. At the same time, it's meant to serve as a FAQ entry, which means it should be clean and to the point, without extra "fluff", like a ...


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I know a lot of users (mostly new ones but also some old ones) are wondering why we have such a strict backup policy and what is the point of it. So, having a meta post that would explain why would definitively be a good idea to me. However, I don't think adding it directly to the post you linked would be a good idea. This post is already really long and ...


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So, what do you think? I think we already have our TL;DR. Our 'How to write a good answer' FAQ post has the TL;DR of our back up policy. Specifically: When writing an answer, try to explain when and under what circumstances your proposed solution worked for you. Explain how you learned the techniques or insights you're offering as a solution, why you ...


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