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Interpersonal Skills is not the "court of public opinion" of Stack Exchange. If you have a serious grievance with the users, moderators, or community managers on this site or any other site in the network, that needs to be voiced (preferably in a calm and open manner) on the child meta of the site the issue relates to if it's a single-site issue or on Meta ...


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Your question is about language, not Interpersonal Skills. There are other sites on the network for questions about language, words, and what they mean. Those sites even take requests for specific words. There have been numerous discussions in the past, and the outcome was simply that Interpersonal Skills are about the behaviours you use when interacting ...


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I think "Tactfully" is a helpful word that can and should be used in some titles. Using the word tactfully can help a question writer express that their question is not just about doing __, but about doing __ under certain conditions and those conditions are the reason they have been having difficulty and want to ask a question in the first place. Hence "...


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Clickbait titles, particularly on Meta, are not useful or helpful. We need to be able to know what the question is to some degree based on the title of the question. One of the CMs addressed this on a similar meta question on Science Fiction & Fantasy: Every community in the Stack Exchange network has a single objective: create the world's highest ...


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As the original asker I felt the edit was unfair. The edit makes it look like the situation has happened to me. And much worse situation could appear in another edit for some other post. I don't think anyone would like to see their own post telling they've experienced something that they didn't. Especially if it's posted by their real account. It should be ...


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No, saying that solutions must be polite is not good policy. You cannot assume politeness is a prerequisite of every situation. Various levels of confrontation are also interpersonal skills. In your "refuse money" example, if politeness is something the author requests, they obviously want to resolve the problem with the least interpersonal friction. But ...


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TLDR: None of the topics mentioned in the question are off-topic per definition. The bickering about these topics, including bickering about answers and edits, IS. It is, most emphatically, NOT a site chartered to discuss any of the following: Human sexuality Relationships Neurolinguistic programming How to win friends and influence people ...


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Answers containing graduated questions will be deleted. This is designed to be a repository for all those questions that have graduated. It is a community wiki answer, so add in your question here, at the end of the list once it is posted on the main site! How can I encouragingly critique my budding photography friend? Encouraging bystanders to step up How ...


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Questions about learning and applying skills are on-topic. Questions about specific Stack Exchange grievances need to be taken to either Meta Stack Exchange, or the SE staff.


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The Stack Exchange's meta support site was created to deal with social issues as well as technical. While such questions may involve interpersonal concerns, I'm going to ask that we don't split these conversations between two sites. Ask your questions on meta.stackexchange.com (or the specific meta site where the problem occurred) so the broader Stack ...


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This is a quirk of the English language. If you go to tech support to ask, "How do you unlock this iPhone?", you're not typically expecting a literal response like, "I don't unlock it; the phone is not mine." The question they are actually asking is, "How is this done?" This site isn't a polling place to collect random anecdotes as a way to build consensus ...


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If you're afraid that your account may be traced back to you in real life, you could consider making a second account: You will want to make sure your login credentials and contact emails are completely distinct, though, so that your accounts don't get merged automatically. Please, please make sure to register your second account as well, so you can ...


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Now, we do not allow questions asking whether or not something is racist or not, because those questions are basically unanswerable. I don't know that this is true... I do know that those questions tend to draw an awful lot of heated and often rude argument, but saying that they're unanswerable is a big leap. Asking whether something is appropriate for a ...


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Should we invite hurting users, whose question is off-topic, to stop by the chat and talk about it in a more casual way? I'd say No. Chat isn't supposed to replace questions/answers on main or meta. New users can ask questions, but they can't chat without having 20 reputation points. Chat isn't supposed to be a way to circumvent restrictions on what is on/...


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Yes. And then discuss them and edit them. Gentle reminder that the most-used reference for what is on-topic here are the questions that folks encounter on the site: what they find in Google, in the Hot Network Questions list, in scanning the homepage. If folks mostly see questions that represent topics they want to ask about, they'll ask more of them. ...


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Communicating with a rude or offending party is an interpersonal skill as is appealing to a third party like a landlord or police officer. The problem isn't really with the question, it's with the answers. When someone asks for an interpersonal skill related answer and they get a security related answer, it's a bit like a C# question on Stack Overflow ...


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We need to take this seriously. We're dealing with people's lives. Frustrated, upset, depressed, suicidal even - we have no business dealing with that. I think Shog9 put it best when he said I hate to sound callous about this, but... This isn't a support group; y'all probably aren't trained to deal with the outpouring of grief and despair of someone you'...


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The problem with "is it rude" questions is that they are often asked by someone looking for validation - I did this thing and I was told that I was wrong to do it - is it actually rude or not? We are not here to judge or to settle someone's argument with someone else. This can be seen in the recent question you mentioned: Is it rude to not ask for a ...


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For this, You may create a new anonymous account which is not linked to any SE site. This way, your question can't be traced. However, remember you shouldn't be using this account to interact with your original account in any manner. From this meta post at Mathematics.SE, Multiple accounts are usually tolerated, but they are not allowed to interact at all. ...


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TL;DR: Close these questions as off-topic and (maybe) point them to a canonical question-and-answer. My main reluctance about these questions is the consequences for when folks get answers wrong. I think this point has been briefly bounced around in chat in general cases, but it's especially relevant here. When a person - preferably with the help of others - ...


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Not sure what you want here, but no, I'm not going to stop close-voting questions just because they're dealing with hard stuff. Sometimes these questions aren't perfectly phrased because the person asking is emotionally fraught. That is a perfectly valid reason to write a question that's not up to par. But it's not a reason to not vote to close. In such ...


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On IPS, we're all about the details - details for the cultural setting of the problem, the circumstances under which it is taking place, the particulars of the people involved, etc. We really need each asker to tailor the question specifically to their circumstances, so they can get the best possible answers from the community. After all, solutions in one ...


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Should we take a blanket stance on these types of questions, and if so what should that stance be? I'm going to advocate against having 'identification-request' type questions. It's going to be hard to determine which ones are about identifying interpersonal skills, and which ones are just about situations or character traits. I think your answer to that ...


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The real issue with a provocative word isn't whether or not the word is actually rude/offensive/bad/etc... The issue that is relevant to IPS (which Tinkeringbell pointed out in a comment) is the volume of pointless side discussion that it creates. I think the more general question isn't to decide whether manspreading is offensive or not... but more about ...


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I have the same question. I was struck by "Relationships" being off topic. Isn't part of the whole point of having interpersonal skills to preserve relationships, however shallow or transient they may be? My question about being followed by a stranger in a car was essentially about a relationship: as someone in the neighborhood whom I haven't yet met, the ...


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I think that if there really is an XY problem with a question, it should be put on-hold as 'unclear what you're asking' AND leave a comment asking the OP of the question if they are asking about X or Y or even Z, ask the OP for more context and to state his goal clearly. To keep with the pizza dough, a comment on an XY question could read something like: ...


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I'm going to echo TinkeringBell and say No While a laudable goal - there's nothing wrong with wanting to help, SE chat as a platform is woefully ill equipped to address serious mental health situations beyond directing the user to more suitable resources. Many of the reasons in this meta post about why Medical Sciences SE doesn't allow questions that seek ...


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It could be very likely that an answerer suggests something contrary to what the OP’s environment recommends. This is up the writer of the question: We already ask people to mention what they have considered trying/tried when writing a question. Guidelines on communication from within your specific environment are such a thing: We can assume you're aware of ...


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No, SE is a question and answer site, not an advice column. Questions asking "what do I do" are not a good fit for the Q&A format that SE implements. The reason that they are not a good fit is that they are too open ended and they invite a lot of opinions. IPS is already one of the most subjective sites on the SE network. As a subjective site, we try to ...


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