I can see several issues with that post.
You copied a large part, if not the whole thread, of content from another site and you don't explain what you think the problem is. So before anything, people have to read the whole thread and try to understand the context, situation and potential issues from it. That is not very user-friendly toward the potential ...
You hit the nail on the head:
No way to know, use your intuition
No way to know, strap on yer brass
ones and go for it
Both answers you suggest are
No way to know
This is the reason the question was closed in the first place. It is opinion based. There is no true answer, because, as you put it, there is no way to know what the answer is.
First, I too think there could be a lot of value to this post if the question were to be rephrased to something more along the lines of
"I don't like the word queer, I don't have the same connotations with it that everyone else does. How can I explain to the people using it that I don't want to be grouped into that label with them?"
I haven't seen the entire history of comments and close votes. However, without passing judgment on whether the question is too broad, I do see how people would see it as broad.
My overall suggestions would be:
removing/rewriting the "...navigate..." questions in the body
focusing the body from the beginning on how to respond to basic questions that are ...
I would be inclined to say that the question should be deleted, because salvaging it requires changing it completely. I think we're all on the same page so far, in that if they had perhaps asked the question "How can I deal with people labeling me as 'queer' without my consent?" or something to that effect, that would be something more within the scope of ...
As I said in a comment, I think that "How can I persuade people that I'm right and they're wrong" questions should be off-topic, regardless of the opinion.
Your edit in its current form is much closer to an IPS question, but I still would not have voted to re-open. The question, shorn of rantiness, that you have boiled down is
How can I tell [my mother], ...
I say that because I saw a comment on a previous answer before I saw the question.
Good, I didn't have that info.
The question asker seemed to have a legitimate issue with a word being applied to him and/or people like him.
That's what makes this question unclear: What's the problem? Applying the word to him or people like him? Btw, I can't really see ...
I agree with Tinkeringbell.
The question is not clear at all.
The variety of guesses about the OP's intentions in the myriad of deleted comments on the question and the answers that do the same show that, while many want to answer, there's insufficient information to write a good one.
Your answer says that she's afraid to be alone with the OP, while ...
My partner occasionally gets really frustrated hearing me talk about, seeing me on, or any real mention of Stack Exchange.
I think you should narrow it down to a problem that you need to solve with your partner. Also make clear what your goal is, i. e.
Do you want to talk about SE with your partner and get them to listen?
Is your partner against you using ...
This should have remained closed.
Theres a bunch of questions, all interfering with each other:
Title: Is the waitress nice to me because she likes me or because it’s her job?
Body: How can I find out without embarrassing her and/or me?
Body: But I would prefer to know in advance if it makes sense to ask her at all.
Body: I never asked her if she has a ...
No, it should not be reopened. There is some important information missing here, as pointed out in the comments.
I've voted to put this question on hold as unclear. Please add more detail regarding any specifics of why you think it is necessary to cut your future sister-in-law out of your and your future husband's lives. What harm do you think will occur ...
The problem is not that the OP is asking for something she shouldn't do, but that her question is too broad to be answerable. She is not asking how to deal with a sister-in-law she dislikes in this or that situation - she wants to cut her out entirely from her and her fiancée's life:
What should I do? How do I cut her off from us?
(I even ignore the ...
No, we don't.
Not without some serious editing first.
I voted to close this originally because in my opinion the OP will need to clarify whether they are looking for a cure for their nervousness (as the question now states), or whether they are looking to fix an interpersonal problem here.
The OP of this question struggles with speaking with English-...