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First off, let's get one thing out of the way: no one asking questions here is objective. I don't mean that in some vague "true objectivity is impossible" sense; rather, as a practical concern we have to assume that if you're coming here for advice then you're stuck on finding an effective way to communicate in some situation - that's your perspective, ...


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It's deleted. It fails to meet any "Be Nice" standards. It fails to show respect for a person. Period. To make matters worse, that person is one who the OP has been dating for an extended period of time and likely has strong feelings for. So, in addition to failing to respect an unknown person, the user who wrote that answer has failed to respect the ...


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So, you say that these words are important because they are descriptive. I disagree. The words are only descriptive because you have not given us any specific, concrete actual examples. You need to show, not tell. Show, don't tell is a technique often employed in various kinds of texts to enable the reader to experience the story through action, words, ...


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The author definitely has an element of creative freedom to express his opinions and he is somewhat famous for creating contentious posts here. Some of his answers are very good as well, but this answer carries a very negative tone in its approach to the woman in question. What is really "not nice", however, is that the community seemed not to mind, ...


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I'm going to try to steer a middle course on this one. Realize that "pushy" and "militant" are buzz words that potentially have multiple meanings, or even no meanings at all. I won't say don't use them, but I will say that they need to be defined before you do. Which you did in your meta question (though not the original). E.g. militant, attends rallies, ...


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I don't really think the be nice policy was created with this in mind - it was mainly aimed at grumpy dev types. On the other hand, sometimes you gotta go "duuuude, not cool". As a mod elsewhere, this ... is a hard situation. You've gotta draw the line somewhere. In a healthy community, you're not going to wonder if someone's going to walk in, see ...


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Certainly this answer (I can see the parts quoted here) has some serious vitriol in it. The answerer is casting the girlfriend as quite the villain, basically suggesting that she's an abusive partner, engaging in isolating techniques to keep OP dependent on her. (Not sure if this is misogynistic per se; I asked EnglishStudent about this in a comment, ...


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