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Interpersonal Skills is not the "court of public opinion" of Stack Exchange. If you have a serious grievance with the users, moderators, or community managers on this site or any other site in the network, that needs to be voiced (preferably in a calm and open manner) on the child meta of the site the issue relates to if it's a single-site issue or on Meta ...


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I have browsed the site a bit, and I notice there are to date only very few questions which as much as go in this direction. We get questions asking 'is she interested in me?' or 'how do I convince her to have sex with me even if she isn't interested?'. The first isn't answerable because we can't mind read. You can provide us with a ton of details, but they'...


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I think questions of the form: "here's my tale of woe; what do I do now?" are too broad and opinion-based on many sites, especially here. You need to get askers to focus on the goal -- are you trying to avoid having to deal with that person in the future, are you trying to repair the relationship, are you trying to prevent rumors from spreading, what? We ...


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Fashion choices are not on topic, but established etiquette is… Remember that the genesis of this site was a series of failed social proposals with topics as diverse as dating, conflict resolution, and (yes) social etiquette. This site was the resolution of that shortfall. So while a question like "is it acceptable to wear white at a wedding" would ...


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Downvote if you don't like the post, but we shouldn't police this. Legal issues are out of scope here; it's up to individuals to know whether or not particular substances are legal in their jurisdiction. The most we should do here is edit in a disclaimer. Same for medical. I don't know what specific types of drugs are considered highly dangerous and which ...


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Yes these are on-topic. Good questions will explain why you suspect it is or is not acceptable, such as something you saw in a movie, heard from friends, read online. Please don't simply ask the same question for every culture in the world! Good answers will provide references beyond your personal experience, especially when such behaviours are not only ...


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Those answers are probably responding to "or can you suggest an alternative approach" while missing "to pass the offender the message". (When I wrote this answer, the original question was more clearly asking for help writing a note.) All questions on this site carry an implicit assumption that solutions should involve dealing with the other person. Not ...


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I would say that social engineering in on-topic, as it covers many aspects of interpersonal communication. Let's push for it being on-topic.


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Yes, these sorts of questions should be on-topic. Here's the thing. The first thing that comes to mind when we think about interpersonal skills is talking, but really, there's much more to it than that. Perhaps an example will illustrate. Imagine you had to interview a job applicant. If he/she comes in dressed in holey jeans and a ratty t-shirt, slouches ...


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Yes, this site allows more opinion than many of Stack Exchange's more technical sites. By the nature of the subject matter, the questions on this site often don't have a single verifiably correct answer. That's just the nature of interpersonal skills... This isn't entirely new territory for Stack Exchange though. There are several other sites in the ...


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TL;DR: Yes... Yes it is. But our questions and answers are based on supported experience, so that we don't become a low-quality dustbin. First off, Welcome! You are right in that our site is basically a place for opinion-based questions. As it is, talking to people is just a subjective art. There's seldom any verifiable answer that will work for everyone. ...


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I'll post the text of the two comments of yours that were deleted, just for posterity: You've planted the seed of doubt, she'll probably not admit it, but she's already thinking about what you said. Religious differences and the upbringing of children should be discussed before committing oneself to marriage. and I'm sorry to hear that. Give her time ...


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I've been talking with a moderator in the Teacher's Lounge and I can't say there's been a change in policy. The question you flagged and I answered is not the traditional suicide question about the poster themselves, but a question asked about how to help someone else. I think the canonical answer is that those of us without training need to guide people to ...


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If a question is close worthy by the standards of the site now, then it should be closed. The opposite is also true (should it occur) - if a closed question becomes on topic due to a policy change, it should be reopened. Question age is of little importance to this. Questions that are a bad fit for this site now and are not closed tend to be used as ...


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TLDR: None of the topics mentioned in the question are off-topic per definition. The bickering about these topics, including bickering about answers and edits, IS. It is, most emphatically, NOT a site chartered to discuss any of the following: Human sexuality Relationships Neurolinguistic programming How to win friends and influence people ...


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I don't think it would be a good fit. The expertise to understand/resolve internal, psychological problems is very different than someone who is a keen observer in the ways of social mores and interactions. I don't want to say that one needs more study than the other… but yeah, I'd definitely want to assure there were more experts/professionals ...


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The Stack Exchange's meta support site was created to deal with social issues as well as technical. While such questions may involve interpersonal concerns, I'm going to ask that we don't split these conversations between two sites. Ask your questions on meta.stackexchange.com (or the specific meta site where the problem occurred) so the broader Stack ...


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Questions about learning and applying skills are on-topic. Questions about specific Stack Exchange grievances need to be taken to either Meta Stack Exchange, or the SE staff.


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After a wonderful chat with Tinkeringbell, Sphennings and Spiral Succulent, I've drawn the following conclusions. It seems that the largest reason that questions are viewed as "convince" questions is because they focus more on how the asker wants the situation to change than how they can change it themselves. (both Tinkeringbell and Sphennings also ...


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It seems like in the first case, it's argued that saying "This thing you're asking how to do? Yea, don't do it" is "not respecting the premise of the question," while in the second case, doing the same exact thing is considered a valid frame challenge (and even worthy of a bounty and almost 300 upvotes). We've already talked a bit about this in chat, but I'...


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Yes, we want questions about specific theory problems. In order for this to be an SE about Interpersonal Skills and not just one about Interpersonal Problems, we need to be able to discuss the skills themselves. It's useful to have questions like "Why should I apologize for an accident?" as well as questions like "The same barista keeps getting my name ...


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Yes. I don't see a problem with this question. "Skills" doesn't just mean coming up with an applied solution for a specific instance or recurring problem with other people. Skills also includes smoothing out our own personal quirks and behaviors to facilitate better interaction and communication with others. If the question was how to greet someone with a ...


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Off-topic Questions about interactions on the Stack Exchange network Interpersonal Skills is not the "court of public opinion" of Stack Exchange. If you have a serious grievance with the users, moderators, or community managers on this site or any other site in the network, that needs to be voiced (preferably in a calm and open manner) on the ...


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I think there's an important distinction between Workplace.se and here that is relevant. There are a lot of constraints that are relevant to a professional environment, and the whole concept of "professionalism". Relative position in a company hierarchy will also be a major factor. Due to this, I understand why this would be problematic. However, getting ...


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Questions such as this must not rely on asking for help in creating an actual argument for the person asking. We are not here to further the person's political/religious/personal goals, we are here to help people improve their interpersonal skills. So, I'd like to pull out an old and much used question here, the vegan question. How to ask a vegan to stop ...


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Now, we do not allow questions asking whether or not something is racist or not, because those questions are basically unanswerable. I don't know that this is true... I do know that those questions tend to draw an awful lot of heated and often rude argument, but saying that they're unanswerable is a big leap. Asking whether something is appropriate for a ...


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Questions about interpersonal problems including how to talk to X about Y to get them to do Z are currently on topic here. If we think that objective is manipulative, or not a good fit for this site for the valid reasons you brought up here, we can come to a community consensus to redefine "on-topic" to exclude that particular type of question. Specifically, ...


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Should we invite hurting users, whose question is off-topic, to stop by the chat and talk about it in a more casual way? I'd say No. Chat isn't supposed to replace questions/answers on main or meta. New users can ask questions, but they can't chat without having 20 reputation points. Chat isn't supposed to be a way to circumvent restrictions on what is on/...


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Mods are not able to lift question bans. Even if they could, they'd be unlikely to do so as the ban is there to give you some time to work on your question asking skills. You will be able to post questions again once your ban period expires. With that being said, if you continue to post questions that the community deems as low-quality, you will get another ...


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