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Is it ok to ask questions about issues on Stack Exchange? If so, where do we draw the line?

Interpersonal Skills is not the "court of public opinion" of Stack Exchange. If you have a serious grievance with the users, moderators, or community managers on this site or any other site in the ...
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Would the scope of "Interpersonal Skills" include Pickup?

I have browsed the site a bit, and I notice there are to date only very few questions which as much as go in this direction. We get questions asking 'is she interested in me?' or 'how do I convince ...
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Are "what should I do" questions on topic here?

I think questions of the form: "here's my tale of woe; what do I do now?" are too broad and opinion-based on many sites, especially here. You need to get askers to focus on the goal -- are you trying ...
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Is asking about appropriate dress for a situation on-topic here?

Fashion choices are not on topic, but established etiquette is… Remember that the genesis of this site was a series of failed social proposals with topics as diverse as dating, conflict resolution, ...
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What do we do with questions involving the use of substances?

Downvote if you don't like the post, but we shouldn't police this. Legal issues are out of scope here; it's up to individuals to know whether or not particular substances are legal in their ...
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"Is behavior X acceptable in culture Y?" : On topic or off topic?

Yes these are on-topic. Good questions will explain why you suspect it is or is not acceptable, such as something you saw in a movie, heard from friends, read online. Please don't simply ask the same ...
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What to do with answers that aren't related to interpersonal skills?

Those answers are probably responding to "or can you suggest an alternative approach" while missing "to pass the offender the message". (When I wrote this answer, the original question was more ...
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Coming to terms with "Frame Challenges" vs. "Respecting the Question"

It seems like in the first case, it's argued that saying "This thing you're asking how to do? Yea, don't do it" is "not respecting the premise of the question," while in the second case, doing the ...
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Do we want theory questions here? What kind?

Yes, we want questions about specific theory problems. In order for this to be an SE about Interpersonal Skills and not just one about Interpersonal Problems, we need to be able to discuss the skills ...
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Is asking about appropriate dress for a situation on-topic here?

Yes, these sorts of questions should be on-topic. Here's the thing. The first thing that comes to mind when we think about interpersonal skills is talking, but really, there's much more to it than ...
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Is this site, essentially, a centre for primarily opinion-based questions?

TL;DR: Yes... Yes it is. But our questions and answers are based on supported experience, so that we don't become a low-quality dustbin. First off, Welcome! You are right in that our site is ...
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What did I do or say wrong? AKA "Comments, comments, comments"

I'll post the text of the two comments of yours that were deleted, just for posterity: You've planted the seed of doubt, she'll probably not admit it, but she's already thinking about what you said....
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Has there been a change in policy regarding suicide prevention questions?

I've been talking with a moderator in the Teacher's Lounge and I can't say there's been a change in policy. The question you flagged and I answered is not the traditional suicide question about the ...
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Should we start retro-actively closing questions?

If a question is close worthy by the standards of the site now, then it should be closed. The opposite is also true (should it occur) - if a closed question becomes on topic due to a policy change, it ...
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Differentiating on and off topic - How?

TLDR: None of the topics mentioned in the question are off-topic per definition. The bickering about these topics, including bickering about answers and edits, IS. It is, most emphatically, NOT a ...
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Are INTRApersonal questions allowable on this site or is this strictly interpersonal?

I don't think it would be a good fit. The expertise to understand/resolve internal, psychological problems is very different than someone who is a keen observer in the ways of social mores and ...
Robert Cartaino's user avatar
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Is social engineering on-topic here?

I would say that social engineering in on-topic, as it covers many aspects of interpersonal communication. Let's push for it being on-topic.
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Is it ok to ask questions about issues on Stack Exchange? If so, where do we draw the line?

The Stack Exchange's meta support site was created to deal with social issues as well as technical. While such questions may involve interpersonal concerns, I'm going to ask that we don't split these ...
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Is it ok to ask questions about issues on Stack Exchange? If so, where do we draw the line?

Questions about learning and applying skills are on-topic. Questions about specific Stack Exchange grievances need to be taken to either Meta Stack Exchange, or the SE staff.
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Let's start working on our help center "what to ask" text!

Off-topic Questions about interactions on the Stack Exchange network Interpersonal Skills is not the "court of public opinion" of Stack Exchange. If you have a serious grievance with the ...
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Is this site, essentially, a centre for primarily opinion-based questions?

Yes, this site allows more opinion than many of Stack Exchange's more technical sites. By the nature of the subject matter, the questions on this site often don't have a single verifiably correct ...
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What is the difference between a "convince" question and a good question?

After a wonderful chat with Tinkeringbell, Sphennings and Spiral Succulent, I've drawn the following conclusions. It seems that the largest reason that questions are viewed as "convince" ...
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Are general things which affect interpersonal skills on-topic?

Yes. I don't see a problem with this question. "Skills" doesn't just mean coming up with an applied solution for a specific instance or recurring problem with other people. Skills also includes ...
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Are questions about 'how to convince another person to change their behavior?' on topic

I think there's an important distinction between Workplace.se and here that is relevant. There are a lot of constraints that are relevant to a professional environment, and the whole concept of "...
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What do we do with questions asking 'is X cultural appropriation'?

Now, we do not allow questions asking whether or not something is racist or not, because those questions are basically unanswerable. I don't know that this is true... I do know that those questions ...
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Let's talk with X about Y so we can achieve Z

Questions about interpersonal problems including how to talk to X about Y to get them to do Z are currently on topic here. If we think that objective is manipulative, or not a good fit for this site ...
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Can I ask this theory question?

Mods are not able to lift question bans. Even if they could, they'd be unlikely to do so as the ban is there to give you some time to work on your question asking skills. You will be able to post ...
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Is asking about public speaking on topic?

Just before I start writing, I figured I'd let you know that there is a "Public Speaking" proposal lurking around on Area 51 if you'd be interested in that. It's been trying to get off the ground for ...
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Related Answers: Why your Pakistani answer won't always work for India

There's been a lot of chatter about the need for cultural sensitivity of this site, and the need for the community to understand that their experiences may not apply to others. The context for this ...
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