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What's wrong with apologizing?

I rolled back the edit and locked the answer to give us a chance to talk about it here. To be clear, the bit in contention is not an apology despite the words "I'd like to apologise". Instead, that's ...
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Why was another one of my answers deleted?

I don't particularly like answers that say "There's no interpersonal solution here." Two points spring to mind: It's very, very hard to show that there's no interpersonal solution to an interpersonal ...
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Does this answer violate the "be nice" policy?

It's deleted. It fails to meet any "Be Nice" standards. It fails to show respect for a person. Period. To make matters worse, that person is one who the OP has been dating for an extended period ...
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What's wrong with apologizing?

The apology isn't the problem it's the remarks about other reactions to the question that lead to it getting removed. On it's own an apology in an answer is rather innocuous. It's just extra noise ...
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14 votes

What's wrong with apologizing?

First off, I'd like to apologise for the onslaught of crap responses you've already received and those that'll likely be rolling in over the next few days. It's an unfortunate reality of talking ...
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Rude/abusive flag declined?

If there is a single troublesome word that is the penultimate word in the entire post, it is very easy to miss. I'm sorry. I missed it. Bad mod! I'd like to use this opportunity, however, to point out ...
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Why was my answer deleted last night?

Your answer fails the most important test: Answers must answer the question What's the question: Title: How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know ...
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Why was my answer (8456) deleted?

I'm the moderator who deleted your answer. Let me first include the original form, in its entirety: He's not going to stop liking it, and refusing to do it inside a marriage is selfish - marriage is ...
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Question 15411 had a high rated answer disappear - how do I determine why this happened?

Here is the text of the answer, verbatim: On Slack, you can copy the URL of an earlier message and paste it into the chat, and Slack will quote the earlier message along with a timestamp. This is the ...
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Why was my answer deleted?

I wasn't involved, but I would have flagged it for deletion if I'd seen it. First off, you answered an off-topic question. Note that the other answer there responds to an on-topic IPS question, ...
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What changes do I need to make to my answer to get it undeleted?

I'll try one last time. Saying 'the skill you're looking for is X and here's a list of stuff to do' isn't an answer. You're making grocery shopping lists, and writing down recipes. 'You need a ...
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Questionable custom close reason

As one of those who originally voted to close it, I'm ready to receive a public beating, but please hear me out first. Flater wrote a comment, that covers it excellently and is worth being presevered ...
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Heavy handed deletion of an answer

I see a mod simply deleted the answer. I'm the one that deleted that answer, after it was again flagged for being not in line with what makes a good subjective answer. As it was already flagged ...
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Was this answer an improper frame challenge?

Wasn't my first section a frame challenge? If it was why wasn't it received more negatively? Was there something about the way I approached the answer that made it acceptable? Indeed your answer is a ...
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Does this answer violate the "be nice" policy?

The author definitely has an element of creative freedom to express his opinions and he is somewhat famous for creating contentious posts here. Some of his answers are very good as well, but this ...
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I edited my answer. What can I do to get it undeleted?

Generally, if your answer was deleted by a moderator and you believe that the problem is now resolved, you should flag your answer, explaining the situation and pointing out that you think you've ...
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Answer deleted after a year and many positive votes

I was the moderator who deleted the answer; I should explain my reasoning. The question comes from someone interested in cross-dressing who's asking about deflecting awkward questions he receives ...
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Regarding the deletion of an answer for not answering the core question

The reason why it was deleted is indeed only because it did not address the question, and since you edited your answer to provide exactly what was missing, I think your answer is now almost perfectly ...
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Does this post provide an answer or is it missing the point of OP's question?

It seems this answer broadly follows the template pattern for a good frame challenge: The explanation: Why the author disagrees with the decision to tell the friend they may be on the spectrum An ...
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Answer deleted after a year and many positive votes

As mentioned, your answer was a well intended answer and potentially a very helpful response, but it wasn't really an interpersonal answer. I've hit this issue and had a few of my own answers removed ...
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Is this answer valid?

This answer is close! It really just needs a makeover of one of its paragraphs to be well over the line. My issue with the answer is this paragraph right here: There's no need to say that you prefer ...
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Answer deleted, without notice, no chance to improve etc.?

It was deleted by three votes from the community. This MSE post explains how comments on deleted posts work, so you probably had a mismatch because there were no mod comments on your answer. For ...
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Why was an answer I liked deleted?

The answer from anongoodnurse there is basically the same, and has one other very important point: To address the group and not the individual. I re-read my answer and came to the conclusion it was ...
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Why did my answer get bad ratings?

I will attempt to answer based on a third party observer perspective. I did not answer, comment or vote on the original question, and only viewed it to get a better idea of the basis and context for ...
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Rude/abusive flag declined?

It's worth remembering, you can downvote - which encourages the user to self delete, and comment (politely!) to let him know that the language is unacceptable. A good chunk of moderation, as it ...
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What's wrong with apologizing?

As you are well aware, this site currently has a problem with people attacking other people based upon their differences of perspective. Very recently, I commented in support of a meta answer you ...
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I edited my answer. What can I do to get it undeleted?

Here was the original answer (original emphasis kept): Cancel the party, keep the money, and make a holiday on an island far away with no phones and no internet. They will get over it - eventually. ...
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I edited my answer. What can I do to get it undeleted?

Don't repost existing answers. Especially don't repost an answer to circumvent a deletion. Since you've already edited your post, what you need to do now, is draw attention to the answer, like you'...
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