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I hadn't set eyes on the question until I saw this meta post, so this is a new perspective. I see several issues with it. It's not clear. Perhaps it's just me, but I don't understand the question itself. Two sentences in that post have question marks. One is the title: Can I tell my girlfriend that I'm too lazy to meet up? What does "Can I" mean? ...


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tl&dr; You aren't making the world a better place by driving out people who could really benefit from learning why their desired approach to a scenario is distasteful or otherwise "unacceptable" (or whatever other reason you are downvoting). I have also noticed this. I was just looking at How to talk to a girl who's sitting next to me but wearing ...


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I've been talking with a moderator in the Teacher's Lounge and I can't say there's been a change in policy. The question you flagged and I answered is not the traditional suicide question about the poster themselves, but a question asked about how to help someone else. I think the canonical answer is that those of us without training need to guide people to ...


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No. This question as written should not be reopened. As far as I'm concerned this isn't a type of question that we should welcome on this site. The question comes down to "Give me a bunch of funny rejoinders I can use when people ask me why I'm still single!" This does not meet the Stack Exchange guidelines for subjective questions. I've ...


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Perhaps we're misusing the tag entirely. Neither of the existing questions using it are about feminism, they're both about interacting with people who the question askers consider to be "feminists", either by the OP's definition or because the subject of the question has claimed to be a feminist. Regardless, that's really not the same thing. I'm not even ...


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I can see several issues with that post. You copied a large part, if not the whole thread, of content from another site and you don't explain what you think the problem is. So before anything, people have to read the whole thread and try to understand the context, situation and potential issues from it. That is not very user-friendly toward the potential ...


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The similar question was about etiquette and could be answered without a frame challenge. Your question added constraints which made it essentially impossible to answer, and did not support them very thoroughly. As others have posted here, I can't read the minds of downvoters and close-voters. I myself did not vote on either question, though I did try to ...


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Questions such as this must not rely on asking for help in creating an actual argument for the person asking. We are not here to further the person's political/religious/personal goals, we are here to help people improve their interpersonal skills. So, I'd like to pull out an old and much used question here, the vegan question. How to ask a vegan to stop ...


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Ex Software Recommendations pro-tem mod here - with experience on a site with an odd scope, I don't think these actions are wrong, especially as it was the community, rather than an individual. And... from an outsider's perspective, there's a fundamental issue with questions like that. There's good subjective, bad subjective, and using the internet as your ...


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but still gave a close vote without waiting out an edit. That's basically what close-votes are for. To put a question on-hold pending more clarification and improvements, to avoid you getting bad answers. We can't go sitting around leaving comments and then waiting days before closing stuff (granted, it does happen but isn't ideal). If someone thinks a post ...


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Mods are not able to lift question bans. Even if they could, they'd be unlikely to do so as the ban is there to give you some time to work on your question asking skills. You will be able to post questions again once your ban period expires. With that being said, if you continue to post questions that the community deems as low-quality, you will get another ...


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You hit the nail on the head: No way to know, use your intuition No way to know, strap on yer brass ones and go for it Both answers you suggest are No way to know This is the reason the question was closed in the first place. It is opinion based. There is no true answer, because, as you put it, there is no way to know what the answer is.


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Hmm... You found my answer! (internal pride :P) I'm going to argue why that question is on-topic for the site. To do this, I'll simply ask the same question as I did in my linked answer: Is this question about interacting with people in a specific situation? To rephrase this in the context of your question, I'm going to change the question a little bit to ...


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I've read your question a couple of times now, and... I'm not totally sure what you want. Remember, the purpose of asking questions is to solve some real problem that you face, or at least a problem reasonably similar to it: You should only ask practical, answerable questions based on actual problems that you face. Chatty, open-ended questions diminish the ...


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I think you're trying to apply that meta question/answer to this question when it doesn't actually relate in this case. In my answer to "To what extent do we respect the OP's request?", I'm talking about people who have made a decision that affects themselves and we need users to avoid telling them that their decision is wrong when it does not relate to ...


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As one of those who originally voted to close it, I'm ready to receive a public beating, but please hear me out first. Flater wrote a comment, that covers it excellently and is worth being presevered here: I would argue that this is not a matter of interpersonal skill. Workplace rules are in place regardless of how you feel about them. Your supervisor's ...


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I don't have any strong feelings that either of these questions should absolutely be open or closed but I thought I would at least share some info that might be invisible to most users here. How to have a religious discussion with someone when you're not religious? With this question, it did start out quite broad. apaul's comment saying such came in ...


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tl;dr I think your question should not be considered too broad. However, we need to come up with better guidelines than what currently exist for writing questions about understanding social norms. What the help center says The help center says that questions fitting these four topics are good questions here using or understanding interpersonal ...


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If you hover over the downvote button, it says: This question does not show any research effort; it is unclear or not useful. Given that 'official' reason for downvotes, and numerous feature requests on Meta SE asking about forcing people to give a reason for downvoting, all being declined, a question asking why things are downvoted isn't a good ...


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Two things: First, I too think there could be a lot of value to this post if the question were to be rephrased to something more along the lines of "I don't like the word queer, I don't have the same connotations with it that everyone else does. How can I explain to the people using it that I don't want to be grouped into that label with them?" I'd ...


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Your question was closed as opinion based, because it was effectively asking "What should I do?". As is discussed here such questions are not a good fit for this site. Since we don't have a custom close reason for such a question we, use POB, because that best indicates what the problem with the question is.


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I voted to reopen because I felt there was sufficient detail to distinguish it from the "duplicate" and because it appeared to have answered the questions in the comments. The issues identified in comments were: OP never mentioned what kind of people they're struggling with now, only that something happened in the past. Question now says OP is in high ...


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I deleted the comments. Any post with more than twenty comments is autoflagged by the system. As a moderator, it's my job to review them and determine if the comments need to be there. In this case, I decided that most of the comments were either unnecessary or tangential. None of them were rude. Upvotes really don't mean anything when it comes to ...


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"Asking "What should I do?" is off topic. - Questions should ask for help achieving a specific goal. Your question is asking for personal advice on "what to do" without defining a goal; this is too subjective. Edit your question to explain what you hope to achieve and how you would like to interact with the others involved." Why "What should I do?" is off ...


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Firstly, I want to make it clear that unless we asked all of the people who voted on both of them, we simply have no way of knowing what they were actually thinking about these questions. That being said, here's my interpretation of the two... Why did the first question work? @Rainbacon in chat made a great point about the first question, saying: It's not ...


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To set the stage, the Code of Conduct: No bigotry. We don’t tolerate any language likely to offend or alienate people based on race, gender, sexual orientation, or religion — and those are just a few examples. Use stated pronouns (when known). When in doubt, don't use language that might offend or alienate. Your comment was: When you say "there is ...


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I haven't seen the entire history of comments and close votes. However, without passing judgment on whether the question is too broad, I do see how people would see it as broad. My overall suggestions would be: removing/rewriting the "...navigate..." questions in the body focusing the body from the beginning on how to respond to basic questions that are ...


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I would be inclined to say that the question should be deleted, because salvaging it requires changing it completely. I think we're all on the same page so far, in that if they had perhaps asked the question "How can I deal with people labeling me as 'queer' without my consent?" or something to that effect, that would be something more within the scope of ...


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(1) The user's edit was unfortunately not true to the author's original intent which is still clearly visible in comments. Since OP has made his intentions clear on the record, such an edit wouldn't be consistent even if made by OP. (2) So it was a confusing edit, even if the user made it in good faith, and distorted the question by basically changing OP's ...


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