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What caused this site to be excluded from Hot Network Questions?

The tweet has been deleted, but it was a screenshot of 3 questions. First, How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me?. Secondly, How do I tell students at a school I ...
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How to deal with abusive moderators?

Let's get a couple of things straight about what happened. As of Revision 3 of your answer, you had called the OP's girlfriend "sadistic, narcissistic and emotionally unstable", and called her ...
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When are we going to public beta? — DONE!

This site is now public. Enjoy! Original answer: Barring any technical delays, the site should go public tomorrow afternoon (Tue, 18-Jul). The nomination thread was posted last week, so the selection ...
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Why was another one of my answers deleted?

I don't particularly like answers that say "There's no interpersonal solution here." Two points spring to mind: It's very, very hard to show that there's no interpersonal solution to an interpersonal ...
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Why was my answer deleted last night?

Your answer fails the most important test: Answers must answer the question What's the question: Title: How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know ...
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What caused this site to be excluded from Hot Network Questions?

So, first off, I want to get a few things out of the way. Hi to all my lovely IPS friends! This removal from the HNQ is temporary. How temporary will depend on a few things. It will probably last at ...
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Why was my answer (8456) deleted?

I'm the moderator who deleted your answer. Let me first include the original form, in its entirety: He's not going to stop liking it, and refusing to do it inside a marriage is selfish - marriage is ...
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Why can't I add comments?

We are currently doing an experiment where users are encouraged to suggest improvements, rather than leave comments. Comments on this site work differently than others. They are supposed to be only ...
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Deleting old questions versus GDPR

This and this post on main meta (and the comments on those posts) seem to say that the GDPR doesn't act on the level of treating a question or answer as 'personal data'. So, being unable to delete ...
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Why does one upvote cancel five downvotes?

Because that's how the system works. Downvoting the questions and answers reduce the rep by -2 but downvoting answers costs -1 to the one who casts it. Voting has always been for the post, not for ...
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I do not understand some of the decisions made regarding content deletion that, in my view, appear arbitrary

I was the moderator who deleted your comment. In full, it read I think the use of IM is not a very good suggestion. People get much more embarrassed having to reply in writing (or even to be told ...
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How to deal with abusive moderators?

I'm not going to repeat information already stated in the other two highly upvoted answers (which I do agree with). They've already explained why the mods edited out the things you posted and why you ...
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Why did my answer get deleted?

Official guidance from Stack Exchange can be found in the help center. We're happy that you've taken the time to write an answer, but we hold our answers to a very high standard here. Your answer may ...
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Why was my answer deleted?

I wasn't involved, but I would have flagged it for deletion if I'd seen it. First off, you answered an off-topic question. Note that the other answer there responds to an on-topic IPS question, ...
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Closed threads as too broad when they aren't

I'm sorry that you've had some of your questions closed. I know that it can be extremely frustrating, on the objective sites and here, on a site where you're sharing details about yourself, it can ...
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Here a comment, there a comment, everywhere a comment - How many comments do we get, anway?

If I'm reading this correctly, your goal is to get something of a high-level picture of how comments are used (and abused) on this site. The following data covers all comments posted on Interpersonal ...
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Can someone please point me to the "community guidelines"?

In general, information about the site, how it works, and how to use it can be found in the help center. There are a number of different pages there that are helpful for newer users. Some are generic ...
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How to tell whether comments have been deleted due to moderator action or user flagging

Short of a diamond mod actually telling you, there's really no way to know. If you suspect comments are being deleted unfairly by the community, you can flag the parent post for moderator attention ...
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Request for 2018 moderation stats before and after HNQ removal

Here you go: Jan 1 - Oct 16 Oct 16 - Dec 31 --------------------------------------- -------------------- -------------------- Action ...
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What are the citation expectations of answers on IPS Stack Exchange?

Stack Exchange is a rigorous Q&A community with a mission to build up a reliable knowledge base for future readers. It's sort of like Wikipedia in that regard. To accomplish this mission we need ...
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Who is allowed to delete comments?

From the FAQ on Meta.SE: Who can delete comments? A user may delete one of their own comments at any time by clicking on the (x) icon that appears to the right of the comment's timestamp when the ...
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How do I delete my account and all questions/answers on IPS, but keep it on all other SE sites?

You can go to your profile, and click "Edit", which should take you to this page: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/users/edit/current When you're there, on the left, you'll see this: Click "...
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Comments on answer keep getting removed

As Robert mentioned on your Meta Stack Exchange question: Martin, comments are meant to ask for clarification or otherwise make suggestions to improve a post... and then removed when they serve ...
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How can I destroy the stupid Duck?

Just click on "I hate this duck", once you have talked to it and it will be gone. Now click on "Goodbye Duck". However, you have to do it on each site. Because SE has deployed 172 ducks and you have ...
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Referring Askers to other SE sites?

From comments here are strictly for asking for clarifications or suggesting improvements only I'd say there are two types of situations. 1. Question is off topic for IPS It would then either get ...
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Why was my comment deleted?

It is important for users to actually answer questions. Posting comment answers anywhere on Stack Exchange is not something we encourage. This site attracts many, many of these offhand comment answers ...
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Flag handling until a moderator is chosen?

Some flags are automatically handled by the community -- for example, enough rude or spam flags deletes a post and enough comment flags deletes a comment. These actions don't require human ...
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Voting on meta-questions

Now if a question is a good question, but I disagree with it, I would think it is best to up vote the question and then post or up vote an answer stating the disagreement. Yes, that is the idea. ...
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I edited my answer. What can I do to get it undeleted?

Generally, if your answer was deleted by a moderator and you believe that the problem is now resolved, you should flag your answer, explaining the situation and pointing out that you think you've ...

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