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The tweet has been deleted, but it was a screenshot of 3 questions. First, How to approach a friend about his girlfriend asking to sleep with me?. Secondly, How do I tell students at a school I volunteer at to stop flirting with me?. And finally, Story about aliens nicknamed 'Eechees' who have created a network of tunnels on Mars With a comment saying (...


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Alright, this is kinda a two pronged answer. One - How do you deal with an (allegedy) abusive mod team? Easy. Follow the instructions in this Meta Stack Exchange post. (Basically, use the contact us link to reach out to the SE Community Managers. They're employees of SE. They'll look into things and take whatever action is merited, if any.) Two - Dealing ...


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Let's get a couple of things straight about what happened. As of Revision 3 of your answer, you had called the OP's girlfriend "sadistic, narcissistic and emotionally unstable", and called her behavior "shitty and manipulative". You also referred to her as "abusive", and stated that she "sucks". These are all blatant violations of the Be Nice policy, which ...


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This site is now public. Enjoy! Original answer: Barring any technical delays, the site should go public tomorrow afternoon (Tue, 18-Jul). The nomination thread was posted last week, so the selection process typically begins about a week after the site launches; however, I will be out of town next week and I am slated to make the initial contacts, so we ...


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I don't particularly like answers that say "There's no interpersonal solution here." Two points spring to mind: It's very, very hard to show that there's no interpersonal solution to an interpersonal problem. It's very, very easy to claim that there isn't and then write a non-IPS answer. Problems arise when people think "Hm, I can't come up with a good ...


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So, first off, I want to get a few things out of the way. Hi to all my lovely IPS friends! This removal from the HNQ is temporary. How temporary will depend on a few things. It will probably last at least until next year but I'm hoping to turn a negative into a positive and use this to really see what effect the HNQ has on this site. More on this in a bit. ...


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Your answer fails the most important test: Answers must answer the question What's the question: Title: How do I effectively get people to look past my age when considering my abilities, if they know how old I am? How do I get them to trust my abilities despite my age? Your answer is: I'd recommend showing that you are qualified to moderate through your ...


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I'm the moderator who deleted your answer. Let me first include the original form, in its entirety: He's not going to stop liking it, and refusing to do it inside a marriage is selfish - marriage is about making the other person happy. I'm sure you can think of things that he does for you that he'd rather not do. You not desiring it is NOT selfish, though. ...


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We are currently doing an experiment where users are encouraged to suggest improvements, rather than leave comments. Comments on this site work differently than others. They are supposed to be only for suggesting improvements or requesting clarification. We are trying to see if by making the text say "suggest improvements" rather than "add a comment" we ...


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I was the moderator who deleted your comment. In full, it read I think the use of IM is not a very good suggestion. People get much more embarrassed having to reply in writing (or even to be told something in writing). I also think the "not face-to-face is not good", it really implies there is something wrong. The reasons for deletion are basically the ...


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This and this post on main meta (and the comments on those posts) seem to say that the GDPR doesn't act on the level of treating a question or answer as 'personal data'. So, being unable to delete your question because it doesn't meet the criteria to allow you to do so does not seem to be a violation of the GDPR. Usually, the way to go about such things is ...


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Because that's how the system works. Downvoting the questions and answers reduce the rep by -2 but downvoting answers costs -1 to the one who casts it. Voting has always been for the post, not for the poster. No one will judge a post by the reputation of the user who posted, but by the net score of the post. If you have a post with nine upvotes and forty ...


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I'm not going to repeat information already stated in the other two highly upvoted answers (which I do agree with). They've already explained why the mods edited out the things you posted and why you were considered out of line. However, I do want to emphasize that it's important to remember that IPS is a beta site, and that comes with a few really ...


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Official guidance from Stack Exchange can be found in the help center. We're happy that you've taken the time to write an answer, but we hold our answers to a very high standard here. Your answer may have been deleted because... It was a "Do this" answer with little or no explanation for why you think this answer is the correct course of action. It doesn't ...


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I wasn't involved, but I would have flagged it for deletion if I'd seen it. First off, you answered an off-topic question. Note that the other answer there responds to an on-topic IPS question, apparently based on comments; that's not ideal either, as the question hasn't actually been edited to ask that, but it at least tackles an IPS issue. Your answer ...


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I'm sorry that you've had some of your questions closed. I know that it can be extremely frustrating, on the objective sites and here, on a site where you're sharing details about yourself, it can feel even worse. Please know that having a question closed isn't a failure and it's not personal. It's also worth knowing that question closure isn't permanent. ...


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If I'm reading this correctly, your goal is to get something of a high-level picture of how comments are used (and abused) on this site. The following data covers all comments posted on Interpersonal Skills for its entire history, unless otherwise noted. It includes deleted comments and comments on deleted posts; the latter are treated identically to ...


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In general, information about the site, how it works, and how to use it can be found in the help center. There are a number of different pages there that are helpful for newer users. Some are generic and apply to all Stack Exchange sites; others are slightly different and modified for different sites (for instance, we've edited this page about asking ...


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Short of a diamond mod actually telling you, there's really no way to know. If you suspect comments are being deleted unfairly by the community, you can flag the parent post for moderator attention and they can look into it. But comments on the whole are treated as third-class citizens, so they're pretty much by design allowed — expected, even — ...


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Here you go: Jan 1 - Oct 16 Oct 16 - Dec 31 --------------------------------------- -------------------- -------------------- Action Moderators Community Moderators Community --------------------------------------- ---------- --------- ---------- --------- Users suspended ...


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Stack Exchange is a rigorous Q&A community with a mission to build up a reliable knowledge base for future readers. It's sort of like Wikipedia in that regard. To accomplish this mission we need our answers to be clearly backed up so visitors can verify our answers for themselves. Without any citation, we are just random people on the internet and our ...


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From the FAQ on Meta.SE: Who can delete comments? A user may delete one of their own comments at any time by clicking on the (x) icon that appears to the right of the comment's timestamp when the comment is moused over. Comments that are flagged by multiple users are deleted automatically. The number of flags needed is based on the comment's score. It ...


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Just click on "I hate this duck", once you have talked to it and it will be gone. Now click on "Goodbye Duck". However, you have to do it on each site. Because SE has deployed 172 ducks and you have to hate each one of them to make them go away. ;-)


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You can go to your profile, and click "Edit", which should take you to this page: https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/users/edit/current When you're there, on the left, you'll see this: Click "delete profile". You'll get this page (at https://interpersonal.stackexchange.com/users/delete/current): Check the checkbox, and click "delete profile". The ...


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As Robert mentioned on your Meta Stack Exchange question: Martin, comments are meant to ask for clarification or otherwise make suggestions to improve a post... and then removed when they serve that purpose. Comments are not meant for answers or to host permanent information or extended discussion. But rather than relying on that generic guidance, I ...


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From comments here are strictly for asking for clarifications or suggesting improvements only I'd say there are two types of situations. 1. Question is off topic for IPS It would then either get closed or edited to be on topic eventually (sometimes both). If it can't be edited in such a way that it would be on topic for IPS AND you're certain that it'd ...


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It is important for users to actually answer questions. Posting comment answers anywhere on Stack Exchange is not something we encourage. This site attracts many, many of these offhand comment answers and we as moderators do our best to clear them. I didn't delete your specific comment but I would have if I'd seen it. In the future, if you have an answer ...


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Some flags are automatically handled by the community -- for example, enough rude or spam flags deletes a post and enough comment flags deletes a comment. These actions don't require human intervention. Otherwise, the SE community managers handle flags on beta sites until moderators are chosen.


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You're not hallucinating. :P This is an April Fool pun by SE team. AFAIK, they do that every year. There is nothing to worry about. You just have to talk to that duck just like user who asked this question. According to the Taken from Rubber Duck popup, Whenever you’re stuck, Rubber Duck Debugging is a powerful method for solving even the most difficult ...


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Now if a question is a good question, but I disagree with it, I would think it is best to up vote the question and then post or up vote an answer stating the disagreement. Yes, that is the idea. With one exception: there are some questions tagged as feature-request. For those, you upvote the question if you want to see that feature implemented, and you ...


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