[Originally posted here, but moved as being too tangential to the specific question]
[This is similar to this question, but I'm not describing topicality of questions so much as the ability of answers to these questions to meet the standards we enforce for non-etiquette questions]
I don't disagree that the etiquette questions relate to interpersonal skills, nor that they can be popular and helpful. But with the recent emphasis on experience-based answers and scope of the site, should they be included here?
It seems to me that we have the following options:
Assume that IPS has enough "etiquette experts" (however we define that) that these sorts of questions can be reliably addressed for enough users in enough distinct contexts around the world
We acknowledge that the rules are less strict for etiquette questions (or that such questions get a special exception from the standard), and allow for non-expert answers but still generally expect a "correct" answer to exist and be presented
We expect a "correct by consensus" approach, where different answers can be submitted and the most upvoted ones are "correct" by acclaim (etiquette generally depends on what others expect and how they judge the asker's behavior)
We accept that etiquette questions will diverge from the typical question-answer setup of an SE site (IPS already has some of this character anyways, so that may not be too much of a stretch), and prepare to endure/accommodate a large number of "I feel like" or "I often see" types of answers
I personally don't think that etiquette questions are unreasonable for the site. But if we're formalizing other types of questions and answers to conform to the SE approach, as seems to be happening, etiquette questions are kind of an odd duck.
My parents made me go to etiquette school as a child. To the extent that there is an Emily Post-style "correct" answer to a question, I may know it. But if that answer is not generally known, can people really interpret it correctly?
As a (not great, admittedly) example, many people have internalized "ladies first" as the polite approach to pretty much everything. That's often true, but is specifically not when entering an elevator. Yet, if a man darts ahead to get on an elevator before a woman I think that many observers would consider it rude because it's not "ladies first".
Can it be a good interpersonal skill suggestion if a random observer would consider the action to be inappropriate, despite being technically correct by a standard of which many, perhaps most, are unaware?
Can we keep these sorts of questions and simultaneously maintain the same standards we expect for non-etiquette IPS answers?